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Palaver versus the tall men
Whenever I change the picture I use for my column, I get responses from readers. Over the years, I’ve been described as an armed robber, a playboy, a pastor, a dancer, a millionaire, a choir-boy, and a poet. My latest picture, which I started using about three weeks ago, has elicited a single response: people say I look like a boxer.
Looking closely, I’m tempted to agree. It makes me wonder if I am in the wrong profession—I should be training for title fights and dislocating jaws in the ring for pay. I remember my last real fight in Secondary Form One. I was skinny, agile, and felt like I was floating “like a butterfly.” I fought a Form Two bully who had harassed me for two terms. Despite his size and wrestling skills, I won by a technical knockout after a clever dodge caused him to punch a stone instead of me.
Today, with my height and weight, I could be a heavyweight contender. My only problem is that I’ve lost my dancing skills in the ring, though my height remains intact.
This brings me to height and the Tall Men’s Club. A member, J.G.K. Mensah, wrote a rejoinder to my article “Palaver of the Tall Men” (November 4). Unfortunately, not all readers got a copy of the paper, so here’s a recap:
One group recently formed is called the Tall Men’s Club, consisting mostly of Dogo Moros. When an executive invited me to join, I asked whether it wasn’t being formed to mock short people. I expressed that such clubs can indirectly embarrass those who are not naturally tall, similar to if women formed a “Beautiful Women’s Club” or a “Handsome Men’s Club.”
History shows that stature doesn’t determine achievement: Hitler, Napoleon Bonaparte, and many others were short yet influential. Definitions of “tall” vary widely by society—5’2” is considered tall in some places, 6’0” short in others. In some regions, extreme height is even considered undesirable.
The rejoinder
Mr Mensah’s reply was long but failed to make a compelling point. He explained the club exists to collectively negotiate more space in commercial vehicles, king-size mattresses, furniture, and coffins. I find this reasoning weak—these are problems individuals can solve without an association. Most tall people adjust to their circumstances, as demonstrated by Mark, a 6’7” copper still at his post without complaints.
Critique
I maintain that the problems of tall men are not so severe as to justify a Tall Men’s Association. If it were a fun club, it would have attracted little attention. Instead, the rejoinder appears as a rationalization of exaggerated claims. If, as Mr Mensah says, girls like tall men, then these men already enjoy social advantages—they don’t need a club to secure more benefits.
What if women also formed a “Beautiful Women’s Club”? Would that not embarrass women who are naturally less attractive?
For now, I leave the debate here and dare Mr Mensah to respond again.
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Saturday November 18, 1995
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After two weeks of hectic activity up north, I drove to the Tamale airport, parked the car at the Civil Aviation car park as usual, paid the usual parking fee and boarded the plane for Accra.
Over the last two weeks, I had shuffled between three sites where work was close to completion.
One was a seed warehouse, where farmers would come and pick up good quality maize, sorghum and other planting material.
The other was a health facility for new mothers, where they were given basic training on good nutrition and small scale business.
And the third was a set of big boreholes for three farming communities.
The projects usually ran on schedule, but a good deal of time was spent building rapport with the local people, to ensure that they would be well patronised and maintained.
It was great to be working in a situation where one’s work was well appreciated. But it certainly involved a lot of work, and proactivity. And I made sure that I recorded updates online before going to bed in the evening.
When the plane took off, my mind shifted to issues in Accra, the big city. The young guys at my office had done some good work. They had secured five or six houses on a row in a good part of the city, and were close to securing the last.
When we got this property, unusually, Abena greeted them casually, and appeared to be comfortable in the guy’s company.
I was quite disappointed to hear that, because until the last few weeks, it seemed as if Abena and I were heading in a good direction. Apart from the affection I had for her, I liked her family. I decided to take it easy, and allow things to fall in whatever direction.
Normally I would take a taxi to her house from the airport, and pick her up to my place. This time I went to my sisters’ joint, where they sat by me while I enjoyed a drink and a good meal.
“So Little Brother,” Sister Beesiwa said, “what is it we are hearing about our wife-to-be?”
“When did you conclude that she was your wife-to-be? And what have you heard? I’ve only heard a couple of whispers. Ebo and Nana Kwame called to say that they have seen her in the company of—”
“Well said Little Brother,” Sister Baaba said. “By the way, Nana Kwame called an hour ago to ask if you had arrived because he could not reach you. Someone had told him that Jennifer had boasted to someone that she had connected Abena to a wealthy guy who would take care of her.”
I was beginning to understand. For some time, Abena had been asking me what work I was doing up north, and after I had explained it to her, she kept asking. So I think Jennifer fed her with false stories about me in order to get her to move to the Ampadu guy. Jennifer must have been well compensated for her efforts.
“In that case,” Sister Beesiwa said, “you should be glad that Abena is out of your way. She is easily swayed. Anyone who would make a relationship decision based on a friend’s instigation lacks good sense. I hope the guy is as wealthy as they say?”
“Who gets wealthy running a supermarket chain in Ghana?” Sister Baaba said. “Our supermarkets sell mostly imported products. Look at the foreign exchange rate. And remember that Ghanaians buy second-hand shoes and clothes. Supermarkets are not good business here. Perhaps they are showing off that they are wealthy, but in reality they are not doing so well.”
“Amen to that,” I said. “I’m beginning to understand. For some time, Abena had been asking me what work I was doing up north, and after I had explained it to her, she kept asking. So I think Jennifer fed her with false stories about me in order to get her to move to the Ampadu guy. Jennifer must have been well compensated for her efforts.”
She said that David Forson was only an agricultural extension worker in the north who did not have the resources to take care of a beautiful girl like her. And apart from being wealthy, the guy comes from an influential family, so Abena had done much better leaving a miserable civil servant like you for him.
“Amen to that,” I said. “I’m beginning to understand. For some time, Abena had been asking me what work I was doing up north, and after I had explained it to her, she kept asking. We would be able to sell all five houses to one big corporate customer, and we had already spoken to a property dealer who was trying to find a buyer in order to get a good commission.
That was going to be my biggest break. I had asked the boys to look for a large tract of land on the outskirts of the city where we could develop our own set of buildings, blocks of storey houses and upscale apartments. Things were going according to plan, and I was quietly excited. However, things were not going so well regarding my relationship with Abena.
My buddies Ebo and Nana Kwame had called to say that they met Abena and her friend Jennifer enjoying lunch with a guy, and Ebo believed that Jennifer was ‘promoting’ an affair between Jennifer and the guy. They were of the view that the promotion seemed to be going in the guy’s favour, because only an agricultural extension worker in the north who did not have the resources to take care of a beautiful girl like her.
And apart from being wealthy, the guy comes from an influential family, so Abena had done much better leaving a miserable civil servant like you for him.
“As I’ve already said, I will stop by her place, but I will mind my own business from now. Hey, let’s talk family. How are our parents? And my brothers-in-law? And my nephews and nieces? Why don’t we meet on Sunday? I’m going to drop my bags at my place, and go to see Mama and Dad.”
