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Signs of being unsatisfied in a relationship
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Are you feeling unsatisfied in your a relationship? Do you feel like your relationship has come to a standstill?
The tragic fact is that even though they are feeling unsatisfied in marriage or are in an unsatisfying relationship, a lot of couples choose to stay together and refuse to make any efforts to bring back the lost spark.
Sometimes one gets so used to being unsatisfied in a relationship and can’t even think of parting ways with a partner.
If you are unsatisfied in a relationship and feel happier without your significant other, it clearly means that there is something wrong.
The fear of being alone or abandoned may give you feelings of uncertainty. But you should always remember that it’s better to be on your own than to be unsatisfied in a relationship.
Unless you are in an abusive relationship, you must try to find ways to rejuvenate your relationship.
If you are indeed someone who feels unsatisfied in a relationship, here are some of the after-effects to look out for:
Short temper
Although it is true that every couple fights, the way it affects you surely explains why you are unsatisfied in relationship.
You’ll realise that you are acting in unhealthy ways. Instead of having a mature conversation, you often argue with your partner.
This behaviour can also start affecting your professional life. Also, brooding over issues, overthinking and uncontrolled anger are some signs that you are feeling extremely unhappy.
Lack of communication
If you and your partner often find yourselves in uneasy situations, then it means things are definitely going downhill. You find it hard to discuss the smallest of issues or prefer not telling everything.
You start keeping secrets and avoiding confrontations. Instead of feeling excited, your heart sinks when your partner calls or texts you. The simplest of activities start to feel dull and mundane. Maybe it’s time to re-evaluate your relationship or you’ll start feeling even more terrible.
No trust
You’ll find yourself checking your partner’s phone history. Trust is the glue that holds any relationship together. Also, you might be questioning your partner’s behaviour or actions. It means that you need to re-assess the status of your relationship.
Without trust, there is no understanding. Gradually, there will be further deterioration, and ultimately causing the relationship to fall apart. Hence, you should talk it out or take action before the situation worsens.
Thoughts of being with someone else
Your partner might not be your soul mate if you keep on fantasising about some other person who in your view might be a better match. Also, you don’t feel comfortable with them.
If you have a specific person in mind who you believe would be more compatible, then it’s time to reconsider stuff. Your significant other is not the first person you want to spend your time with after a busy day at work or an occasion. You might start contacting your exes or feel curious about what’s happening in their lives.
This surely indicates that you are terribly unsatisfied.
TO BE CONTINUED
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One of the issues we have been grappling with as a nation is corruption, and it has had such a devastating effect on our national development. I have been convinced that until morality becomes the foundation upon which our governance system is built, we can never go forward as a nation.
Our traditional practices, which have shaped our cultural beliefs, have always espoused values that have kept us along the straight and the narrow and have preserved our societies since ancient times.
These are values that frown on negative habits like stealing, cheating, greediness, selfishness, etc. Our grandparents have told us stories of societies where stealing was regarded as so shameful that offenders, when caught, have on a number of instances committed suicide.
In fact, my mother told me of a story where a man who was living in the same village as her mother (my grandmother), after having been caught stealing a neighbour’s cockerel, out of shame committed suicide on a mango tree. Those were the days that shameful acts were an abomination.
Tegare worship, a traditional spiritual worship during which the spirit possesses the Tegare Priest and begins to reveal secrets, was one of the means by which the society upheld African values in the days of my grandmother and the early childhood days of my mother.
Those were the days when the fear of being killed by Tegare prevented people from engaging in anti-social vices. These days, people sleeping with other people’s wives are not uncommon.
These wrongful behaviour was not countenanced at all by Tegare. One was likely going to lose his life on days that Tegare operates, and so unhealthy habits like coveting your neighbour’s wife was a taboo.
Stealing of other people’s farm produce, for instance, could mean certain death or incapacitation of the whole or part of the body in the full glare of everybody. People realised that there were consequences for wrongdoing, and this went a long way to motivate the society to adhere to right values.
Imagine a President being sworn into office and whoever administers the oath says, “Please say this after me: I, Mr. …., do solemnly swear by God, the spirits of my ancestors and the spirits ruling in Ghana, that should I engage in corrupt acts, may I and my family become crippled, may madness become entrenched in my family, may incurable sicknesses and diseases be my portion and that of my family, both immediate and extended.”
Can you imagine a situation where a few weeks afterwards the President goes to engage in corrupt acts and we hear of his sudden demise or incapacitation and confessing that he engaged in corrupt acts before passing or before the incapacitation—and the effect it will have on his successor? I believe we have to critically examine this option to curb corruption.
My grandmother gave me an eyewitness account of one such encounter where a woman died instantly after the Tegare Priest had revealed a wrong attitude she had displayed during the performance on one of the days scheduled for Tegare spirit manifestation.
According to her story, the Priest, after he had been possessed by the spirit, declared that for what the woman had done, he would not forgive her and that he would kill. Instantly, according to my grandmother, the lady fell down suddenly and she died—just like what happened to Ananias and his wife Sapphira in Acts Chapter 5.
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