Obaa Yaa
Signals are worrying
Dear ObaaYaa,
We have been lovers for five years and hopeful that things will improve to enable us to be married. Our relationship has passed through memorable and rough times, yet we have managed to sustain it till now.
Now that we have planned to marry, certain unpleasant developments are showing up their ugly heads which give me cause to worry.
There are reports from reliable sources that my lady had a child with a classmate but has refused to disclose this information to me despite repeated appeals to her to tell me the truth.
After this report, l have received confirmation from another person which has now given me a free mind to make a definite decision to end the relationship for good.
It is my view thatsince she has not been faithful to me from the beginning, nothing will convince me that she will change her character when we are married.
Once l have made this decision, I will not stop from carrying it out.
Kwabena-Kasoa,
Dear Kwabena,
Though you have decided to end the relationship, I will urge you not to rely solely on the information received from these two sources, because it is possible the first person who made the disclosure to you could influence the second person to narrate the same story to serve as a confirmation of the earlier one.
What you have to do is to take your time to investigate and avoid making hasty decisions at this crucial time. It will not be out of place to reveal the detailed information you have received about her past life.
It is, indeed, true that as you prepare to marry, you should eliminate all bottlenecks in your relationship and straighten your path.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
