Relationship
Reasons to believe in love again
Sometimes, love is something that just happens to fall into an unbelievably lucky person’s lap. However, for the most part, love is always something that you’re just going to have to struggle and fight for. For the most part, love is really something that you need to give your everything to if you want to find any success in it. You might be so unlucky that you have to endure a few heartaches before you can find a good man. You must never lose hope.
Just because you have had a string of bad luck with your relationships doesn’t mean that you’re never going to get it right. The good man is out there. And it’s always important that you maintain your belief in the fact that he exists. If you’re not convinced, here are 10 reasons you should probably change your mind.
You attract mostly what you believe.
The law of attraction. This isn’t just something that people have made up over the years. It’s real. You really do attract what you believe. You really do attract the kind of energy that you give of into the world. If you always believe that all men are going to be bad, then you are essentially going to attract all of the bad men to come into your life.
You risk becoming a bitter woman.
No good guy is ever going to want to be around a bitter woman. And so, if you allow yourself to stay bitter about the state of men in the world, you are essentially repelling all of the good guys from you. You never want to be bitter about your romantic situation. You can be sad about your bad luck. But you don’t want that sadness to turn into something toxic.
You set expectations to be unbelievably high for good men.
The more that you believe that good men don’t exist, then the higher your expectations will actually be for all men that you meet. You are going to start to equate finding good men with finding Bigfoot or unicorns. Accept that all good men do exist – it’s just that they aren’t going to be as perfect as you want them to be. No one is perfect after all.
You risk settling for someone you’re not really meant to be with.
If you convince yourself that good men don’t exist, you might just settle for a bad guy out of desperation to be in a relationship just for the hell of it. And that’s definitely bad.
You might just cling to the idea of eventually ending up with prince charming.
Prince charming does not exist in this real life. If you really want to find love, you have to accept the fact that reality isn’t always going to meet your fairytale expectations. Let go of the idea of prince charming just randomly showing up in your life. No knight in shining armour is going to come and sweep you off your feet. Let go of these childish beliefs so that you don’t end up disappointed all the time.
To be continued.
THE years pass so quickly that these festivities are blurred in my memories and blended with holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, and exceptional date nights. Yet the way we celebrate each other is often marked by consistent priorities. Sometimes, it can be hard to come up with Valentine’s Day gift ideas to make your spouse feel extra special when you are in the thick of day-to-day life.
Here are six Valentine’s Day ideas that can be used to keep the romance in marriage or relationships alive and celebrate each other as spouses.
- Plan a timeout
Dedicate these celebrations as timeouts from normal life. Discuss task lists, calendar planning. Also, break from traditional date-night activities to try something new to mark the occasion. - Prepare for time together
This includes planning the outing and coordinating but it goes beyond preparation. Preparation means decompressing on the drive home and not monopolise the date venting out frustrations. It also involves building small buffers of alone time to get ready or catch up on things before the date. - Aim for special (not always fancy)
Fancy is often fun. You do not always get the chance to dress up and go out somewhere that serves food. But sometimes we have coasted, hoping that a more expensive date would make it more memorable, and that’s not always the case. Instead, make it special by planning the date with each other in mind. A unique experience or intentional consideration can make a huge impact without a huge budget. - Communicate expectations before coming up with Valentine’s Day ideas
Communicating hopes and expectations makes everything easier in marriage and relationships. Letting your partner know your likes and dislikes helps him or her plan memorable moments. - Affirm the effort in coming up with Valentine’s Day ideas, not discredit it
When you first meet a new crush, dates can function like tests. Did you pass or fail? If it went well, you may do it again, if something went poorly it’s likely over forever. Unfortunately, it’s easy to carry this same rating system into marriage celebrations. But romantic holidays are not tests to validate or discredit our marriages. They are opportunities to pause and show love to each other in ways that are not always feasible in the day-to-day. - When maxed out, keep it simple and sweet
When you have space and resources for extravagant dates, go for it! Yet, sweet and simple dates can carry just as much punch. So, if you don’t plan a huge date out, plan a quiet night in. Not sure what to do or say to make something special? Think of some options and ask your spouse what they would like. Ready your heart to connect with them and come up with lists of things you love about their personality or fun questions you are curious for them to answer.
No matter what plans are already on your calendar, set this date aside as an opportunity to let your spouse know that you see them and appreciate who they are. Such simple exchanges can have a profound effect on your relationship.
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As parents on a mission, raise children who are not just successful, but cultured, morally upright, and ready to lead. The secret? Blend biblical principles and traditional values with practical parenting strategies that work in today’s world.
Ghana’s culture is built on respect, community, and integrity, and when combined with Christian values like love and forgiveness, it is a powerful combo for parenting. Teaching children about traditions, biblical truths, or the importance of greeting elders is not just about preserving culture—it is about building character.
5 Practical steps to raise disciplined, cultured kids
- Set clear expectations
Explain rules and values clearly. For example, “We respect elders because God says ‘Honour your father and mother’” (Ephesians 6:2). Also, “We respect elders because they have lived longer and know more.” Align household rules with cultural values like obedience and responsibility. - Lead by example
Children mimic what they see. Show respect to elders, speak kindly, and demonstrate honesty in daily life. Proverb: “If you show a child how to behave, they’ll behave.” Moreover, Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way they should go …” You can also introduce them to traditional games like “Oware” or “Ampe”, which teach strategic thinking. - Teach emotional intelligence
Help children label emotions (“You’re feeling angry”). Encourage resolving conflicts peacefully—like using “sorry” to mend relationships. Ghanaian proverb: “A smooth sea doesn’t make a skilled sailor.” - Assign responsibilities
Give age-appropriate chores (e.g., fetching water, helping with cooking). It builds accountability and pride in contributing. Link chores to cultural values like communal living (“We all help in the community”) and biblical stewardship. - Embed culture and faith in daily life
Cook traditional foods like Banku, Jollof rice or Fufu, tell folktales, or celebrate local festivals with prayer and gratitude. Discuss values like ubuntu (I am because we are) to teach teamwork and empathy; alongside God’s love for unity (John 13:34-35). Make culture fun and relatable.
Some other awesome ways to make Ghanaian culture relatable for children include:
- Sharing popular Ghanaian artists like Joe Mettle, Uncle Ato, or Obaapa Christie, and teaching traditional dances like Kpanlogo or Adowa.
- Exploring Ghanaian crafts like kente weaving or bead-making through online workshops.
- Talking about festivals like Homowo (celebrated by the Ga people) or Aboakyer (a deer-hunting festival) using cool videos and pictures online.
Why this matters for Ghana’s future leaders
- Respect and integrity: Cultured children grow into leaders who respect others and uphold ethical standards.
- Community mindset: Values like cooperation and serving others (Galatians 5:13) prepare them to contribute positively to society.
- Resilience: Cultural roots give children a strong identity, helping them navigate life’s challenges.
Parenting in the digital age
- Balance screen time with cultural activities. Use Anansi stories or Bible stories on YouTube or play Oware to teach strategy and patience.
- Discuss social media etiquette through the lens of respect, responsibility, and biblical wisdom (Proverbs 15:4).
Final thought for Ghanaian parents
February 2026 is a fresh start. Blend Ghana’s timeless values with modern tools to raise leaders who are grounded, respectful, and ready to thrive.
To be continued …
Source: REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI and Counselor Blessing Offei’s insights on relationships, marriage, and parenting in Ghana. He is an author, mental health professional, lecturer, and marriage counsellor at COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE). He is the author of several books, including “Preparing for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage” and “A Counselor’s Guide to Using ‘Preparing for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage’ Effectively.”
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