Relationship
Quick methods end arguments in a relationship
Each couple fights in a natural way, and it’s healthy and shouldn’t be viewed as detrimental. Arguments are a lot of fun because although there is a commonality between you and you are different and trying to make a living together and so the conflict of opinion will be discussed sooner or later, it’s just the way of life. The point where feelings and emotions come into play is when you can actually end fighting and begin to get healthy in the process. Some couples excel at this while others extend the process further.
Calm yourself down
In the first place, you must draw a deep breath and do not let your anger control your thoughts. If your passion starts to take over, things go downhill fast don’t let it happen. Do your best to remain as peaceful as you can, you’ll be angry and would be tempted to shout at them but, really, do you really want to shout at your loved ones?
Are you going to feel terrible about it after the battle is done? Once spoken, words are not reversible, when we’re angered; we tend not to think about what we say before speaking. Don’t allow your anger to drive the conversation and instead be as calm and calm as you can.
Think about the importance they are to you.
The true beauty of loving someone is the fact that you can cherish them even when you’d like to be angry with them. Love can’t simply die because you don’t get along, real love remains the same and will show its face when the two of you settle down. If I have a disagreement with my girlfriend, I know we get into it but we inform each other of what we feel. After that, we gradually start to calm each other and eventually come back to normal, what is important to keep in mind during disagreements and fights is to remember how much you cherish the person you are fighting and the importance they hold to you. It’s because that’s the thing that matters at the end of the day.
Don’t forget about the topic.
I’ve met a couple who employ what’s known as”the “ignorance method,” it’s one of the most insane techniques I’ve encountered. The concept is to avoid the conflict simply allow it to “fix itself” and try to (or pretend to) be understanding to each other. It isn’t working that way! Your argument will remain in the air until you sort it out and figure out an answer, but any argument that is not resolved will be sure to come back at you more severely than it has before. Don’t put off the fight Discuss it with your partner and let your partner be honest about your feelings Do not keep it to yourself and you’ll regret it in the future.
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Long-distance relationships can be intimidating, but they do not have to be. Whether with friends or a romantic partner, distance does not need to define your relationship.
The most important part of maintaining a healthy long-distance relationship is remembering to prioritise your needs and boundaries. By keeping these tips in mind, managing a long-distance situation can be a positive experience for everyone involved.
- Set aside time for daily or weekly check-ins
By establishing regular times for communication from the get-go, you and your friend or partner will be on the same page about how often you expect to hear from one another. Also remember, keep in mind the quality of your conversations. If you are re often arguing or you finish the majority of your interactions feeling unsatisfied or unhappy, it is time to re-evaluate if the relationship is still a positive one.
- Write letter or send surprise care packages
Taking the time to exchange letters with your loved one is a special way to enhance your connection and provide comfort and support.
The time it takes to write and mail a letter demonstrates to your friend or partner that you want to go the extra mile to show them you are thinking about them.
- Try a weekly video call
Even if you feel nervous about the idea of facetime or having a video chat, this type of communication can make you feel a bit closer to your friend or partner.
Prioritise setting boundaries for yourself, and ask your partner about their boundaries as well. If you find that your partner is often pushing you to have a video call so they can see where you are, that could be a red flag.
- Make sure to ground yourself in your daily life
Sometimes in a long-distance relationship, it is easy to get wrapped up in thinking about how far away you are, how much you miss the person, and how tough it can be.
The best way to avoid feeling sad or worried is by being present in your life and with the people in it. Outside of your daily responsibilities, make sure to stay connected to the friends and family near you.
If you do not know many people where you are, the best way to do that is by joining a club, volunteering at a non-profit you are passionate about, or joining a sport or exercise class that you enjoy.
- Make plans for the next time you will see each other
One of the best ways to feel better about the distance is by planning a future trip and talking about all the fun things you can do together the next time you see each other in person.
Remember, only commit to what is feasible for you, and what will not detract from daily life.
As a seasoned marriage counsellor and mental health practitioner at Counselor Prince & Associates Consult (CPAC), I have seen countless couples struggle with the harsh reality of toxic relationships.
Love, once a beautiful flame that warmed their hearts, can morph into a destructive force that leaves emotional scars.
Therefore, recognising the signs of an unhealthy relationship is crucial to breaking free from its grip.
In a toxic relationship, control and manipulation can be subtle at first, but they can escalate into emotional abuse. When one partner dictates what the other wears, who they talk to, or what they do, it is a sign of control.
Emotional drain is another red flag– if interactions with your partner leave you feeling exhausted, anxious, or depressed, it’s time to re-evaluate the relationship.
Gaslighting, a tactic where one partner denies previous agreements or conversations, making the other question their sanity, can be particularly insidious.
It is a form of psychological manipulation that can erode self-confidence and make it challenging to make decisions. Similarly, a lack of respect can be a significant issue in toxic relationships.
When boundaries are consistently disregarded or disrespected, it can lead to feelings of resentment and hurt.
Jealousy and possessiveness can also be warning signs. While some degree of jealousy can be normal, excessive possessiveness can be suffocating. It is essential to recognise the difference between healthy concern and unhealthy obsession.
The impact of toxic relationships on mental health cannot be overstated. The constant stress and pressure can lead to anxiety and depression. Being belittled or criticized can erode self-confidence, making it challenging to maintain a sense of identity. In extreme cases, toxic relationships can even lead to trauma, making it difficult to form healthy relationships in the future.
So, what can you do if you recognise these signs in your relationship? Seeking support from trusted friends, family, or therapists such as CPAC can be a crucial step.
Establishing clear boundaries and communicating them assertively can also help. Prioritising self-care and engaging in activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul is essential.
Couples therapy can be beneficial, but it is crucial to approach it with caution – toxic partners may resist change.
Ultimately, love should uplift and inspire, not drain or control. Recognising the signs of an unhealthy relationship is the first step towards healing and growth. If you are struggling, do not hesitate to seek help. Take a moment to reflect on your relationship – do you feel valued and respected?
Are your boundaries honored? Do you feel happy and fulfilled? If your answers raise concerns, it is time to re-evaluate your relationship and prioritise your well-being. Remember, you deserve to be treated with love, respect, and kindness.
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Source: Excerpts from “AVOID REGRETS IN MARRIAGE: How to Choose a Spouse” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Mental Health Professional, Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).
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