Obaa Yaa
My sister is a scam
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I will report my sister to the police and have her arrested if it comes to that. I gave her money for a business and she used the money to get married.
My sister called that she wanted GH¢10,000 for something urgent.
She said it was for a business she wanted to start and that the person getting her the stock to sell was in China and was asking for that amount.
I sent the money to her in two instalments. I sent GH¢5,000 first and, a week later, sent another GH¢5,000.
The next day after I’d sent the last instalment, my mom called to tell me my younger sister was getting married.
Nadia, Akosombo.
Dear Nadia,
Your anger and sense of betrayal are understandable. You lent your sister GH¢10,000 based on her claim that she needed capital to start a business, only to discover shortly afterward that she had used the money for her wedding.
Anyone in your position would feel deceived. Before involving the police, have a direct and calm conversation with her. Ask her why she misrepresented the purpose of the loan and whether she still intends to repay the money within the agreed period. Give her an opportunity to explain herself and honour her commitment.
If she acknowledges the debt, insist on a clear repayment plan, preferably in writing, stating how and when she will repay the money. This can help prevent future misunderstandings.
Since this is a family matter, consider involving trusted relatives or elders to mediate if discussions become difficult. Family relationships can be damaged permanently by legal battles, so every effort should be made to resolve the matter amicably first.
However, if your sister refuses to repay the money, denies receiving it as a loan, or continuously avoids accountability, you may seek legal advice to understand your options. Keep records of the transfers, messages, and any conversations that show the money was given as a loan.
For now, focus on seeking repayment and accountability rather than punishment. Recovering your money and preserving family relationships, if possible and that should be the primary goal.
A CEO visited his office and saw a man who was scrolling through his phone while sitting on a sofa.
The CEO asked, “What are you doing?”
The man replied, “Wasting my time until I’ll get paid.”
The CEO was furious, “What is your weekly salary!?”
Man, “$1000”
The CEO counted $2000 and gave it to the man, “Take this money and get out! You don’t work here anymore!”
The man silently took the money and left.
CEO walked up to the reception, “By the way, who was this guy?”
The receptionist said, “Pizza delivery”.
I didn’t understand why my father abandoned me as a child until he appeared recently and told me my mom placed a curse on him.
I was about thirteen or fifteen, my mom took me to the front of a big house and told me that is where I belong.
I knocked the door and the man sacked me from the house to go back to my mother.
Life with my mother was very tough until God came through for me to gain a scholarship.
Years later, I’d returned from abroad when this man walked up to me apologising.
I take care of him and provide him with everything. He needs my attention but I doubt if he will get that from me because he didn’t take care of me.
Jojo, USA.
Dear Jojo,
This is such a heart breaking story. No child deserves to grow up wondering why a parent was absent or feeling abandoned.
If your father’s explanation is true, the responsibility for leaving you still rests with him. A curse, fear, or conflict with your mother may explain his decisions, but it does not excuse abandoning his child.
Parents have a duty to love, protect, and remain present in their children’s lives, regardless of the problems between them.
Now that he has returned, it is reasonable to listen to what he has to say, but you do not have to accept everything without question. Ask him honest questions about why he stayed away for so many years, why he never tried to reach you, and what he hopes to achieve by reconnecting now. His willingness to take responsibility for his choices is more important than the explanation he gives.
At the same time, try not to carry the burden of your parents’ conflict. Whatever happened between them was their issue, not yours. You were an innocent child who deserved the love and presence of both parents.
If you choose to rebuild a relationship with your father, let it happen gradually. Trust is earned through consistent actions, not just words. If you decide not to have a close relationship with him, that is also your right. Forgiveness, if you choose it, should be for your own peace of mind, not because you are obligated to overlook the pain you experienced.
Most importantly, remember that your worth was never determined by your father’s absence. His choices reflect his decisions, not your value as a person.
The past cannot be changed, but how you respond now can help you find healing and peace.
