Obaa Yaa
My journalist fiancé has no time for me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.
Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.
By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.
He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.
I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.
Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.
Paulina,
Dodowa.
Dear Paulina,
THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.
That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.
And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.
However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.
Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY girlfriend visited me a fortnight ago, and when it was time for her to leave, I ordered an Uber ride to take her home.
A distance that should have taken her about 30 minutes lasted for almost an hour and a half.
I detected this when I called the landline phone at home to check if she had arrived. Her sisters told me that she had gone to my place.
I got annoyed and went to the house to express my displeasure about it.
Just around the time, a guy pulled up at the house and called her by a nickname.
She was so confused that she did not know what to do. The guy left without uttering a word. Up till now, she has not explained what happened.
Greetings,
Is she playing a double game?
Robert, Kumasi.
Dear Robert,
I THINK you deserve an explanation, and the earlier you ask for one, the better. She must be hiding something from you, and there are two things that you can do.
First, you can confront her and demand an explanation. That might, however, lead to an impasse, because she might flare up and refuse to talk.
Secondly, you can just keep your cool and monitor her movements discreetly. If she is up to something, you’ll definitely find out.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
WHAT I’m going through currently isn’t what I anticipated when I agreed to marry my husband. I feel disrespected in my marriage and somehow manipulated.
From the beginning, he made things look easy. He made me feel like I was in a relationship with a man every woman could dream of. He was caring and simply wonderful, but along the line, I discovered that he was a gay.
When I confronted him, he told me it was something he used to do at the Senior High School but has turned a new leaf.
He made me believe that he had stopped, so I agreed to let go and let peace rein.
To my surprise, my husband brought these gays to our home, and when I confronted him, he told me he was finding it difficult to stop because he was addicted to it.
Obaa Yaa, I want to help my husband to stop this heinous act. How do I go about it?
Shika, Somanya.
Dear Shika,
I AM really sorry you are going through this. Finding out that your husband is a gay can be painful and overwhelming, especially in marriage.
Sexual orientation is not a habit or phase someone can switch off easily.
Have an honest and calm conversation with him; admonish him about the effect of sleeping with men.
Consider professional counselling and pray for him because some cases are spiritual.
