Obaa Yaa
My husband sleeps on the floor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My husband and I dated for three years before we got married last year.
A year before we got married, he moved into my apartment and I made him to sleep on the floor to prevent the two of us from engaging in pre-marital sex.
Unfortunately, he still prefers sleeping on a mattress on the floor even after we got married.
I have complained about his conduct a couple of times, but he is not ready to share the same bed with me.
Anytime I joined him on the floor, he then moved back to sleep on the bed. I am worried about the situation because we do not have sex frequently.
What should I do?
Edith, Sakaman
Dear Edith,
Your decision not to share the same bed prior to your marriage in order to prevent pre-marital sex was good and the two of you must be com¬mended for holding firm to that decision.
Now that you are married, sleeping on separate beds should be a thing of the past. Both of you must demonstrate that you are a couple and must do things together with mu¬tual understanding as regards to what to do at a particular time.
You must interrogate your husband further to find out if there is a hidden agenda for his action. He owes you an expla¬nation to his conduct because the situation cannot continue to remain as it is.
It is also important to find out if there is an underlying problem which is responsible for his conduct.
It could be that your hus¬band has another lover for which reason he is no longer interested in you.
Until he is able to tell you the reason for his action, the problem cannot be solved.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
