A family friend of ours returned from the United States of America and brought me a lot of goodies.

He invited me to his house and gave me a digital camera, an I-Phone, dresses and cosmetics.

Suddenly, this guy, a womaniser by nature ever since I have known him, started making midnight calls to me on the phone he gave me.

I refused his calls because he always called late. One morning, he informed me that I should return all the things he gave me.

Interestingly, I sold my phone because of the new one he gave me. So, if I give it to him, I would have no phone.

Nyamedo, B.A.

Dear Nyamedo,

I DON’T think you have to return the gift because he did not offer them to you in exchange for anything.

There was no agreement that he was giving you the items in exchange for love.

Gifts, once given unconditionally, remains gifts and cannot be returned.

If your friend had any intentions about you, what stops him from letting you know?

You can’t just give someone some­thing and assume the person will be in love with you.

If he harasses you, report the matter to the police.

I will advise you to stop taking gifts from people if you don’t know their in­tention to avoid this kind of drama.

 Dear Obaa Yaa,

I lost a friend who was very dear to my heart. Before his death, he was in a serious relationship with a well cultured lady.

After this incident, the lady has been very close to me because of the consolation she derives from me.

Recently, I have developed a deep affection for her and I want to propose love to her and if possi­ble marry her.

The reason is that, I don’t want her to end up in the arms of anoth­er man who would maltreat her.

But I have a feeling that people may criticise our relationship.

I don’t want to lose her.

Atsu, Keta.

Dear Atsu,

I HOPE you are not saying you want to be the caretaker of your late friend’s girlfriend. And who says she will fall into the wrong hands?

Well, society is such that peo­ple would surely criticise matters like this.

But if the man is no more, there should be no reason why anoth­er man cannot love or marry the girl, provided the new guy is not a brother or relative of the late friend.

In doing so, however, be careful you don’t later turn around to say that, after all she was your friend’s girlfriend so you want to quit. That would be something nobody will accept.

Think about this carefully. If I were you, I would avoid her and get another person.