Obaa Yaa
I’m scared my husband might do it again
Dear Obaa Yaa,
As we approach the festive season, I fear my husband might return to his days of alcoholism. He has battled alcoholism in the past, but with regular counselling and advice from friends and family, he managed to stop.
However, there are occasions when he slips back, which worries me because the last holiday didn’t end well for him. As Christmas approaches, I know the temptation to follow his friends around will be high, but I hope we can convince him to stay away from it.
— Dede Charity, Tema
Dear Dede,
A return to old habits can be challenging and emotionally draining—not just for the person struggling with addiction but also for loved ones. Your support during this critical time is very important.
Encourage him to take control of his recovery and provide consistent emotional support. At the same time, avoid enabling behaviours, such as covering for him or giving financial assistance that could be used to buy alcohol.
You might also consider setting clear boundaries and discussing coping strategies together, and involving trusted family or friends who can support him during the festive season. Remember, recovery is a shared effort, and your guidance can help him stay on track.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 20 and she is 19. We have been lovers for the past four months and have promised to get married to each other.
We love each other badly that one cannot leave the other for long. Our relatives know about our affair except her grandmother who will be in the country soon.
My problem is that, I doubt if the grandmother will be excited about this relationship. Her grandmother is very strict and I doubt if this relationship can be successful.
Her grandmother has been like a mother and everything to her, so her final decision may count.
We have promised each other to stay holy and clean.
Lartey,
Sunyani
Dear Lartey,
I don’t think your fears are justified if the girl’s parent do not object to your relationship with her.
What makes you think her grandmother will oppose the relationship if her parents endorse it?
Be positive about the relationship. There is no cause for alarm.
I am very happy you guys are staying holy and clean until marriage.
Both of you are student and need to be careful about any decision you take.
I believe you should try as much as possible to support each other and stay away from any negative act.
I have a girlfriend who is ‘allergic’ to me and ‘allergic’ to men in general.
Because of this, I barely touch her. I do not sit too close to her. I do not even hold her hands for long.
We have tried before. Even recently, we tried again. At first, things looked normal.
Then suddenly she lifted her hands and started scratching her back aggressively. We stopped immediately. Moments later, she ran to the bathroom and started vomiting.
She spent almost four hours there, weak, nauseous, and drained.
Watching someone you love suffer while you cannot do anything about it is painful. Is it a curse or an allergy?
Hello Christian,
What you’re describing sounds frightening and emotionally exhausting for both of you. But it is important not to jump to the idea of a curse.
Severe reactions after touch, closeness, stress, or intimacy can sometimes be linked to medical conditions, allergies, anxiety responses, trauma, or psychosomatic reactions.
The safest and most loving step is encouraging her to see qualified doctors, especially an allergist and mental health professional, so the cause can be properly understood.
Your patience already shows deep care. Do not blame yourself or search for supernatural explanations first.
Focus on support, medical guidance, emotional safety, and honest communication while protecting both her health and your relationship.
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