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I’m pregnant and unhappy

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Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a married woman with a three-year-old child, and expecting another baby soon. But instead of feeling excited, I am worried.

My mother passed away just three weeks before I had my first child. I had no one to help me. Luckily, my sister-in-law came to stay with me. But it’s rather unfortunate — she does not do any of the house chores or assist in taking care of the baby.

Even when I was in excruciating pain after delivery, I had to do everything in the house by myself. I have complained many times to my husband, but it seems he does not care.

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I want his sister to leave. I don’t want to go through stress and disrespect in my own matrimonial home. So how do I tell him clearly but respectfully that I don’t want his sister in my house?

Ruthline, Accra


Dear Ruthline,

I understand how stressful and exhausting it can be when you do not get any support system after childbirth. Postpartum depression sets in easily, making many women lose their self-esteem.

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You have already shown strength by planning ahead to do all things by yourself. Now, it is time to protect your peace.

I suggest that you remind him gently of how things are going, and how it affected you emotionally and physically. Let him know you are not rejecting his family, but asking for space to rest and bond with your baby.

On the other hand, I don’t understand why your sister-in-law is refusing to assist you.

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Road safety must begin with us the users

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Road Safety begins with you

Dear Editor,

Before we start blaming the government, the authorities and how bad our roads are, perhaps we should first ask ourselves what role we played in making our roads unsafe.

Road safety is often discussed as though it is solely the responsibility of the government and law enforcement agencies, neglecting our roles we play to make the roads unsafe.

While authorities have an important role to play, the behaviour of individual road users remains equally important.

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A driver who speed, overtakes recklessly, uses phone while driving or drives when tired is making a decision that could affect many lives.

A motorcyclist who ignored traffic light and also refuse to wear a helmet, passengers who encourage the driver to speed and the pedestrians who crosses a busy road carelessly can also contribute to danger.

We must therefore develop a strong culture of personal responsibilities on our roads.

Drivers should obey speed limit, avoid distractions and ensure their vehicles are road worthy, passengers should also not encourage reckless driving simply because they want to arrive at their destination quickly whiles pedestrians must also exercise greater caution when crossing roads.

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 At the same time authorities must continue to improve road infrastructures, enforce traffic regulations consistently and educate the public about responsible road use.

Road safety cannot succeed through enforcement alone; it requires change in attitude. If each road user understand that another person’s life may depend on their decision, our road can become safer.

Let us not wait for another crash before we remember the value of life. Thank you for the space.

From Akwasi Aaron

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Free SHS does not mean free parenting

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Dear Editor,

I was concerned by a point raised during a radio review about the growing expectation among some parents that once their children attend government schools, particularly under the Free SHS programme, the government must provide virtually everything they need.

This mindset deserves serious public discussion.

The introduction of Free SHS has undoubtedly lifted a significant financial burden from parents. Government is already absorbing substantial costs associated with the education of thousands of Ghanaian children. Students in public second-cycle institutions also benefit from provisions such as tuition support, meals and other essential services.

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However, Free SHS should not be interpreted as free parenting. A parent should not expect the government to provide every personal item a child needs simply because the child attends a public school. Items such as mattresses, sponges, toiletries, clothing, chop boxes and other personal necessities should, where possible, remain part of the parent’s responsibility.

The same principle applies at the basic-school level. Government has a responsibility to provide quality education and create an enabling environment for children to learn. Parents, however, have an equally important responsibility to support their children’s education and welfare.

Government cannot and should not replace the family. When parents gradually transfer every responsibility to the state, we risk creating a culture of dependency in which citizens expect government to solve every personal problem. That is neither sustainable nor healthy for our development as a nation.

We must therefore appreciate the support government provides while recognising that education is a shared responsibility. Parents must continue to contribute according to their means, schools must do their part, and government must continue providing the necessary educational infrastructure and support. Rather than asking, “What else will government give us?” parents should also ask, “What can I do to support my child’s education?”

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Free education is a public investment, not an invitation for parents to abandon their responsibilities. Ghanaians must therefore change the mentality that government must provide everything. The state can carry a significant portion of the burden, but the family must never surrender its responsibility.

Free SHS should make education more accessible not make parenting optional.

From Desmond Aidoo

Sowutuom

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