Obaa Yaa
I feed myself and pay my school fees
Dear Obaa Yaa
I AM a 16-year old girl and live with my mother and father at Osu. A lot of things goes through my mind because I wonder if they are my real parents because they don’t take care of me.
I pay my own fees and feed myself, and what annoys me most is that my father sometimes ask me for money.
They don’t even ask me where I get the money from. My parents are really irritating me with this attitude of theirs. Even though they are both unemployed, I don’t think it’s an excuse enough for them to neglect me.
Gloria,
Senya Beraku.
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Dear Gloria,
IF your parents are unemployed, they naturally cannot care for you exactly the way you want.
What you have to do is to pray that your parents gets something to do so that they can be in a position to care for you.
Meanwhile, try as much as possible not to ‘sell’ yourself to unscrupulous men just because your parents are not looking after you.
If you are not in school, that is if you are on vacation, try and do some trading so that you can earn some income for your upkeep until things improve.
As for your parents not asking you about the source of your money, I don’t believe you have to make any case out of it.
The most important thing to consider is that the source must be clean. Don’t get money out of immorality, and lose your life in the proces
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young gentleman who is 25 years of age. I have been dating a lady for the past three years and I have plans of taking her to the altar.
However, there is a problem that threatens the love and bond that exits between us.
Growing up, I have vouched not to engage in any sexual intercourse with my girlfriend. But she seems to have an issue with it.
According to her, my decision makes her feel I am not truly in love as I claim . I must say that I am confused about the situation and I don’t want to lose her because I love her so much.
Thomas, Wa.
Dear Thomas,
First of all, there is nothing wrong with your decision to abstain from sex before marriage. True love is not only proven through physical intimacy, but also through respect, patience, understanding and shared values.
If your girlfriend truly loves you, she should be willing to respect your convictions just as you respect her feelings. It is important for both of you to have an honest and calm conversation about your beliefs, expectations and future together.
Let her understand that your decision is not because you do not love her, but because you value both her and the relationship deeply.
At the same time, try to listen to her concerns without judging her. Relationships survive when couples communicate openly and support each other’s principles. Never feel pressured to do something against your values simply out of fear of losing someone.
A healthy relationship should not force one partner to compromise their morals.
If the two of you truly see a future together, then patience, trust and mutual respect will help strengthen your bond. Stay true to yourself while continuing to show her genuine love, care and commitment.
I wish you all the best.
My dad has threatened not to attend my wedding; instead, he has been raining curses on me.
Each morning and night, he would call and rain curses on me, telling me I was bringing shame and bad luck to my marriage because I told him, my step father will be present.
I have personally been to his house to invite him, yet he keeps telling me he can’t make it. What should I do?
Kwesi,
Suhum
Dear Kwesi,
Your dad’s curses, guilt, and threats come from his pain and fear of losing his role, but that doesn’t make his behaviour idle.
You can love him as your father and still set a firm boundary for him.
If he crosses that line, end the call or stop replying his messages. Protect your wedding and your peace by limiting contact, especially late at night and early morning, and stand by your partner.
Remember, respecting your dad doesn’t mean erasing the role your stepdad played – both can matter without problems.
Don’t let his behaviour dictate the start of your marriage. You can’t control if he comes around, but you can control not letting his anger affect your emotions.
