Relationship
How to deal with anxiety and uncertainty in relationships
Whether you have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder or are simply going through a stressful period, everyone needs a little motivation every now and then, particularly in relationships.
These are three coping skills and strategies that can help you defeat anxiety in your relationship.
- Deep Breathing
Deep breathing is a simple technique that is excellent for managing emotions. Not only is deep breathing effective, it is also discreet and easy to use at any time or place.
Sit comfortably and place one hand on your abdomen. Breathe in through your nose, deeply enough that the hand on your abdomen rises. Hold the air in your lungs, and then exhale slowly through your mouth, with your lips puckered as if you are blowing through a straw. The secret is to go slow: Time the inhalation (4’s), pause (4’s), and exhalation (6’s). Practice for 3 to 5 minutes.
- Examine Your Thoughts
For instance, the thoughts that “something bad will happen” or “I will make a mistake” might lack evidence, but still have an impact on how you feel.
By examining the evidence and challenging these thoughts, you can reduce anxiety.
Put thoughts on trial. Choose a thought that has contributed to your relationship anxiety. Gather evidence in support of your thought (verifiable facts only), and against your thought. Compare the evidence and determine whether your thought is accurate or not.
Ask yourself:
“Is my thought based on facts or feelings?”
“How would my partner or best friend see this situation?”
“How likely is it that my fear will come true?”
“What’s most likely to happen?”
“If my fear comes true, will it still matter in a week? A month? A year?”
- Imagery (Positive Imagination)
Your thoughts have the power to change how you feel. If you think of something sad, it is likely you will start to feel sad. The opposite is also true: When you think of something positive and calming, you feel relaxed. The imagery technique harnesses this power to reduce anxiety.
Think of a place that you find comforting. It could be a secluded beach, your bedroom, a quiet mountaintop, your prayer closet, or even a loud gospel concert. For 5 to 10 minutes, use all your senses to imagine this setting in great detail. Do not think fleetingly about this place; really imagine it.
(PHILIPPIANS 4:6-7)
“6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
#QUOTE OF THE WEEK
Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows, but only empties today of its strength.
—Charles Spurgeon
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from “HOW TO MAKE THE BEST OF YOUR COURTSHIP: Building a Strong Foundation for Your Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Psychotherapist, Lecturer, Author, and Marriage Therapist).
COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE)
Relationship
The power of shared hobbies: how common interests can strengthen relationships and marriages
In today’s fast-paced world, relationships and marriages can be put to the test. With the demands of work, family, and social obligations, it is easy to lose sight of what brought us together in the first place.
However, research has shown that shared hobbies and interests can play a significant role in strengthening relationships and marriages.
In this article, we will explore the benefits of shared hobbies and provide tips on how to incorporate them into your relationship.
Shared hobbies can include dancing, cooking, painting or drawing, travelling, gardening, hiking, learning to play a musical instrument, photography, writing, baking, swimming, language learning, attending concerts or special events, and volunteering.
Shared hobbies and interests can bring numerous benefits to a relationship. For one, they provide a common ground for couples to connect and bond over.
When both partners are passionate about the same activity, it creates a sense of unity and togetherness. Shared hobbies can also help to:
• Reduce stress and anxiety: Engaging in a shared hobby can be a great way to unwind and relax together.
• Improve communication: Working on a project or activity together can foster communication and teamwork.
• Increase intimacy: Sharing a hobby can create a sense of closeness and intimacy, bringing couples closer together.
Take, for example, a couple who shares a love of cooking. They might enjoy trying out new recipes together, experimenting with different flavors and ingredients. Not only does this provide a fun and creative outlet, but it also allows them to spend quality time together.
Another example is a couple who shares a passion for travelling. They might enjoy exploring new places and taking in the breathtaking views together. This shared activity can create a sense of adventure and excitement, bringing them closer together.
If you are looking to incorporate shared hobbies into your relationship, here are a few tips to get you started:
• Find common ground: Identify activities or hobbies that you both enjoy, or try something new together.
• Schedule time: Make time for your shared hobby, whether it is a weekly dinner date or a monthly music concert.
• Be supportive: Encourage and support each other’s passions and interests.
In conclusion, shared hobbies and interests can play a significant role in strengthening relationships and marriages. By finding common ground and engaging in activities together, couples can build a deeper connection and create lasting memories. Whether it is cooking, special concerts, photography, or painting, shared hobbies can bring numerous benefits to a relationship. So why not try something new today and see how it can bring you and your partner closer together?
As the saying goes, “A happy marriage is a union of two good forgivers.” By sharing hobbies and interests, couples can build a stronger, more resilient relationship that will last a lifetime. So take the first step today and discover the power of shared hobbies in strengthening your relationship.
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).
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By Counselor Prince Offei
Relationship
Balancing professional goals and relationship expectations
In today’s fast-paced world, juggling a demanding career and a fulfilling relationship has become a significant challenge for many individuals.
The strain of professional life can often encroach on personal relationships, leading to stress, conflict, and potentially even the breakdown of the relationship.
However, with careful planning, open communication, and mutual support, it is possible to navigate these challenges and cultivate a healthy work-life synergy.
The challenges of balancing
career and love
One of the primary challenges of managing a career and a relationship is the competing demands on time and energy.
A demanding profession can require long hours, frequent travel, and high levels of stress, leaving little time or energy for a romantic partnership. This can lead to feelings of neglect, resentment, and frustration in the partner who feels overlooked. Furthermore, differing priorities and expectations can also create tension in the relationship.
For instance, one partner may prioritise career advancement and financial stability, while the other may value family and relationships above all else.
Strategies for harmony
So, how can individuals cultivate a harmonious balance between their professional and personal lives?
Here are some strategies that can help:
1. Effective communication: Open and honest communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. By sharing career goals, expectations, and needs with your partner, you can prevent misunderstandings and ensure that both partners are on the same page.
2. Boundary-setting: Establishing clear boundaries between work and personal life is essential to maintaining a healthy balance. Prioritise quality time with your partner and learn to say “no” to demands that encroach on personal time.
3. Quality time: Spending quality time with your partner is vital to nurturing a strong and healthy relationship. Whether it is a romantic getaway, a quiet evening at home, or a fun activity, make time for your partner and prioritise your relationship.
4. Mutual support: Supporting each other’s goals and aspirations is critical to a successful partnership. Encourage and support your partner’s career ambitions, even if they differ from your own.
5. Seeking help: Finally, do not be afraid to seek help when needed. Whether it is couples therapy, career coaching, or simply talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeking support can provide valuable guidance and relief.
The rewards of synergy
When individuals successfully navigate the challenges of managing their career and relationship, they can experience numerous benefits, including:
1. Increased fulfillment: A healthy work-life balance can lead to increased satisfaction and fulfillment in both personal and professional life.
2. Deeper connection: Effective communication and mutual support can foster a deeper connection and stronger bond between partners.
3. Improved productivity: By prioritising time and energy, individuals can become more productive and efficient in both their personal and professional lives.
4. Resilience: A strong and supportive partnership can provide a sense of security and resilience, helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with greater ease.
In conclusion, cultivating a harmonious balance between career and relationship requires effort, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and grow together.
By prioritising effective communication, boundary-setting, and mutual support, couples can build a strong and resilient partnership that supports their personal and professional aspirations.
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).
ORDER BOOK NOW:
https://princeoffei22. wixsite.com/author https://counselorprinceass. wixsite.com/edu-counseling-psych https:// princeoffei22.wixsite.com/ website
COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE)
By Counselor Prince Offei
