He is not dependable

Dear Obaa Yaa,

Having met the first time at a party and talked extensively, we exchanged telephone numbers and the conversation continued from there.

Like an interesting music which is played repeatedly, the lovely chats continued until we reached a stage where we could not stay a day without hearing a word from each other.

I thought things would continue the way it started but unfortunately certain characteristics showed their ugly heads and suspicion took the better part of us.

Within the period that we had been close, l discovered that certain movements and pronouncements he had made were not consistent with some plans we had agreed on for execution.

Unfortunately, a friend informed me that she saw my boyfriend at a particular spot with a lady and that was not the first time.

Luckily, l had spoken about him to this friend of mine, but he was not aware.

Three months later, my female friend informed me that the lady my boyfriend had been visiting was three months pregnant and the girl’s parents were very angry.

Though l have planned to pull out of the relationship, he has denied any knowledge of this girl’s pregnancy when l enquired from him. Should l go ahead or pardon him for the sake of love.

Ohene Nana, Accra.

Dear Ohene Nana,

You have to thank God for the information which has come at the time you are not pregnant, a situation which could have prevented you from severing links with this gentleman.

This guy could ruin your future if you continue the relationship with him.

Though you love him, forget about him since he can use tricks to win your love back.

Concentrate on whatever you are doing until you are ready to marry.

I don’t like his dressing

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.

He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.

At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.

Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.

And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?

Alodia, Accra.

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Dear Alodia,

IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.

You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.

On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.

The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.

Obaa Yaa

My mum sleeps with other men

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.

She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.

Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.

Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?

I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.

I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.

T.K, Bantama.

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Dear T.K

There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.

That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.

Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.

Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.

I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.

You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.