Obaa Yaa
He has disappeared
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I fell in love with this gentleman who was very vibrant in his church and the community. He was the lead singer in the church and was able to win many souls for the church through his inspirational singing.
Though we promised to abstain from sex, l had the shock of my life when both of us could not resist the temptation to stay away from sex and l became pregnant.
Surprisingly, ever since l informed him that l was pregnant, he stopped calling my telephone and the greatest shock of my life is that this gentleman has left his house for an unknown destination.
Checks in his house have revealed that the man he had informed me as his elder brother is a mere benefactor and allowed my boyfriend to stay with him since he was stranded.
What shall l do with the pregnancy since my parents are not aware and l am embarrassed?
Ama, Accra.
Dear Ama,
The condition in which you find yourself will definitely make you to be disturbed. You have made a serious mistake in falling in love with somebody who cannot be trusted and whose background you do not know.
The only option left for you at the moment is to inform your parents that you are pregnant. It will be quite embarrassing to tell them that you cannot find your secret lover who had made you pregnant.
Though difficult, your parents will help you with a solution to the problem you find yourself in currently.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
