Obaa Yaa
Enough is enough
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been in a relationship with a young man for more than two years and things were initially going on well with us.
With time, our relationship started going bad and we seemed to disagree with each other on every little issue which should have ended normally without an objection from either of us.
Having observed things critically over the period, l have decided to break up the relationship with him to enable me to concentrate on my studies. I consider this decision very important this time.
Though it will be difficult to disclose my intention to him, l think enough is enough and lam eager to stick to my plans despite the consequences.
Now that l have decided to break up the relationship with him, new guys are also proposing to me.
Obaa Yaa, please l need your advice.
Delight, Takoradi.
Dear Delight,
I am delighted to read that you have attached great importance to your studies and that has informed your decision to sever links with this gentleman. The objective of enrolling in the university is to achieve an aim, so pursue this goal to the end.
Compatibility is the catchphrase in every relationship, and since this is missing, it is appropriate to do what is essential by severing relations with this guy. Can you imagine how your parents will feel when they get wind of your relationship with this guy?
There is one thing making a decision and another ensuring that the decision is carried out.
Disregard the numerous calls from other young men and remain resolute in your decision to stop the relationship which has given you the signal that it has no future.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
