Obaa Yaa
Enough is enough
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been in a relationship with a young man for more than two years and things were initially going on well with us.
With time, our relationship started going bad and we seemed to disagree with each other on every little issue which should have ended normally without an objection from either of us.
Having observed things critically over the period, l have decided to break up the relationship with him to enable me to concentrate on my studies. I consider this decision very important this time.
Though it will be difficult to disclose my intention to him, l think enough is enough and l am eager to stick to my plans despite the consequences.
Now that l have decided to break up the relationship with him, new guys are also proposing to me.
Obaa Yaa, please l need your advice.
Delight, Takoradi.
Dear Delight,
I am delighted to read that you have attached great importance to your studies and that has informed your decision to sever links with this gentleman. The objective of enrolling in the university is to achieve an aim, so pursue this goal to the end.
Compatibility is the catchphrase in every relationship, and since this is missing, it is appropriate to do what is essential by severing relations with this guy. Can you imagine how your parents will feel when they get wind of your relationship with this guy?
There is one thing making a decision and another ensuring that the decision is carried out.
Disregard the numerous calls from other young men and remain resolute in your decision to stop the relationship which has given you the signal that it has no future.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.
Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.
By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.
He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.
I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.
Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.
Paulina,
Dodowa.
Dear Paulina,
THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.
That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.
And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.
However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.
Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.
My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.
My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.
He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.
Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.
Please advise me.
Emefa,
Sogakope.
Dear Emefa,
Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.
Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.
You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.
However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.
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