Obaa Yaa
Do I deserve love?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
The Bible says in Genesis 2:24, “that is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. For this reason, every human is entitled to marry but in my case, I am even finding it different to choose a loved one. It’s been years since I started searching for love but to no avail. The reason is that I am timid when it comes to approaching ladies or even starting conversations.
Not to blow my own horn, but some ladies approach me most often to propose love to me but I have no feelings for such ladies, and the ones I love too I find it difficult to approach them and propose love to them. Do I deserve love? Or I am meant not to be loved by anyone? Currently, I have someone in mind who I am finding difficult to approach but I am afraid that she might be taken by another man. This has been the issue I have been facing over the past years and I sometimes think I do not deserve love or love is meant for other people and not me. What should I do in such a case?
From Desmond Tetteh, Abeka
Dear Desmond.
It’s unfortunate that you refer to yourself as timid. To build your confidence, you could find some books on that to help you. After you have done that, muster courage and approach her, and let her know your intention. Do this before it is late most people have lost their opportunity to express their feeling to their beloved by waiting too long or not having courage to. More importantly, while you make friends with look out for compatibility and compromise where necessary.
Go for Desmond you deserve love and treat her well when she accepts to be with you.
Cheers!
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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