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Should I take this initiative?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Life they say is full of uncertainties and one may not know where his or her help may come from that is the ultimate goal of why people befriend others. I hope Obaa Yaa helps me in terms of my decisions about relationship issues. I am currently a lost ball in the weeds and do not know what to do at the moment.
There is this girl I have befriended for months now and gradually I am head over heels for her but I do not know how to go about it nor do I want to upset my applecart. Should I go ahead and articulate my thoughts to her or we should be just friends because I am of the view that she may even end up befriending me should I let her know my thoughts, what should I do?
Yaw Baah, Koforidua, Eastern Region.
Dear Yaw
I am delighted that you reached out to Obaa Yaa with your problems. Honestly I understand how you feel, but my advice is that you are tactful in handling this issue. Every good love story has a unique start and while you do not want to stall your friendship with the lady by asking her out now, waiting too long to express your feelings to her too may be late. If you’ve built a good friendship and she seems ready for a quality relationship, express your love for her, for all you know she may be interested!
Good luck and if she accepts, kindly make her happy.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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