Obaa Yaa
How I wish I could predict the future
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been through thick and thin since I came across my love before I completed SHS. It was a smooth journey I must confess until I got pregnant with him and his behavior toward me changed.
I went the length and breadth of the world just to make my guy happy but I guess this guy took my leniency for my weakness. Truth be told, he was financially challenged so I decided to help him with the little I had, all this while my parents advised me not to date the guy but I never heeded their advice because I was deeply in love with him. My parents abandoned me after I got pregnant. I finally came to a realization that he was taking advantage of the love I have for him.
After all, the blames, and maltreatment, not to mention but a few I had admission into one of the renowned universities in the country and this guy warned me not to go or else he will break up with me and sack me from his home. I am now back against the wall and don’t know what to do. Should I forfeit going to school so that I can stay with him or go to school and then have no home on vacation since my parents have abandoned me?
Ewurabena, Manfe-Akropong, Eastern Region.
Dear Ewurabena,
It’s unfortunate that your parents have abandoned you, but I am very happy that you are considering to further your education. I advise that you get some elderly people who know your parents and let them lead you to apologise so that they can accept you and help you especially now that you are pregnant, your mother would be of immense help. You should not choose the gentleman over your parents especially when he exhibits such bad character traits. Be firm at this point in your life, go back to your parents, seek education and get your life on a right path.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My marriage is falling apart because I spent more than an hour at the market, and I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
Anytime I visit the market, my husband gives me only one hour to return home regardless of wherever I have gotten to.
This has brought disagreement between my husband and I .What started as a disagreement between my husband and I has now become a family affair.
I never imagined that a simple trip to the market would lead to such a painful situation in my marriage.
He has told me to pack from our matrimonial home until further notice.
Baaba, Apam
Dear Baaba,
Do not allow family pressure to determine the future of your marriage.
Your husband’s family may genuinely want peace, but their desire to restore the marriage should not take priority over your emotional well-being.
Marriage reconciliation should not be about getting a woman back to her husband’s house at all costs.
You can respect your husband’s family without allowing them to dictate your decision.
On a more serious note, your husband should acknowledge the harm caused by his actions and apologise sincerely if he wrongfully sent you away. However, an apology alone is not enough to repair a marriage.
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Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 27 years, living in a single room at Lapaz. I have stayed there for three years and I always pay my rent on time.
Last month, my landlord called me and said he had doubled the rent c from GH₵600 to GH₵1,200.
He says everything had increased so I must pay double or leave by the end of this month. I don’t have anywhere to go and I don’t have that amount. When I tried to beg him, he said if I don’t pay, he will lock my room.
Please advise me, what should I do? I am stressed.
Worried tenant.
Dear worried tenant,
I don’t know why your landlord is acting this way. He cannot just lock your room or eject you like that. In Ghana, the Rent Act mandates a landlord to give proper written notice and go through the Rent Control Department. Locking your room or throwing your things out is illegal.
You can explain to him that you cannot afford 100% at once. Propose something you can afford, maybe ask for time to adjust.
Go to the Rent Control office near you (with your old receipt and any message from your landlord). They will invite him and help you both agree on a fair increment. Usually, an increment should be reasonable, not 100% overnight.
While Rent Control is handling it, quietly start looking at other options, just in case he insists on not renewing your rent after your current rent expires.
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