Obaa Yaa
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A family friend of ours returned from the United States of America and brought me a lot of goodies.
He invited me to his house and gave me a digital camera, an I-Phone, dresses and cosmetics.
Suddenly, this guy, a womaniser by nature ever since I have known him, started making midnight calls to me on the phone he gave me.
I refused his calls because he always called late. One morning, he informed me that I should return all the things he gave me.
Interestingly, I sold my phone because of the new one he gave me. So, if I give it to him, I would have no phone.
Nyamedo, B.A.
Dear Nyamedo,
I DON’T think you have to return the gift because he did not offer them to you in exchange for anything.
There was no agreement that he was giving you the items in exchange for love.
Gifts, once given unconditionally, remains gifts and cannot be returned.
If your friend had any intentions about you, what stops him from letting you know?
You can’t just give someone something and assume the person will be in love with you.
If he harasses you, report the matter to the police.
I will advise you to stop taking gifts from people if you don’t know their intention to avoid this kind of drama.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.
Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.
By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.
He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.
I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.
Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.
Paulina,
Dodowa.
Dear Paulina,
THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.
That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.
And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.
However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.
Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.
My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.
My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.
He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.
Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.
Please advise me.
Emefa,
Sogakope.
Dear Emefa,
Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.
Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.
You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.
However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.
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