Obaa Yaa
Can l love children as parents do?
Dear ObaaYaa,
I am a graduate from one of the tertiary institutions in the country. I have completed my National Service and secured employment in one of the prestigious companies in the country.
My major concern is that l marvel at how parents love their children and do all within their power to ensure that they have all the best of things they need.
Can l also love just as parents do and shower lots of gifts on their children. l am beginning to feel that l may not be able to live up to expectation as a father.
Joseph, Accra.
Dear Joseph,
When you observe people from a distance, it paints a different picture as regards how they act in a particular way and what really informs the decision they make.
There is a biological link among parents, children and relatives. Surprisingly, this unique bond keeps them together so long as they live.
The filial love between parents and children grows naturally. Imagine a mother who carries the child in the womb for nine months before she is delivered of her child.
The first task of a young girl who gives birth is to breastfeed the child. Having done this for a few days prepares the grounds for the commencement of love between parents and children.
Greetings
Ms Bridget AfiAzah. On the occasion of your birthday, we wish to seek for divine favours for you in all your endeavours. May God grant you long life and prosperity and cause you to grow from strength to strength. Belated happy birthday.
From: Your lovely husband, children and the entire family.
Mr Julius Kennedy Kyekye. God has been good to you in many ways and for this, we join all your loved ones to thank Him for the favours granted you. We pray that God will continue the good works he has commenced in you. Wishing you the best of luck. Belated happy birthday, dear.
From: Your lovely wife and children, relatives, friends and loved ones.
Mr Cletus Awumey. Your creator knows what is good for you and the appropriate time to respond to your demands. May He continue to bless, protect and guide you. Remember that His love will never depart from you because he loves you. Happy birthday.
From: Your family, friends and loved ones.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
