Obaa Yaa
My Wife Lied to Me
Dear Obaa Yaa
I GOT married to a lady from my hometown (name withheld) because tradition does not allow us to marry people from other places. We have been living in Europe for the past six years after marriage, but she is very demanding.
For all these years, anytime my wife gets pregnant, she’ll always tell me she wants to deliver in Ghana so that she can get some help in taking care of the baby. Meanwhile, giving birth in Europe would have been a great benefit to my wife.
However, my wife is currently in Ghana to give birth to our second child and wants to spend about six months. Luckily, her brother disclosed to me about the building projects my wife was handling. That’s how I found out she wants to deliver in Ghana to supervise them. Obaa Yaa, I am confused.
—Enoch, Hamburg
Dear Enoch
I DON’T really understand why your wife is playing smart. From the look of things, both of you are happily married and making memories. The question is, what stops her from telling you that she is building in Ghana and needs your support?
I will suggest that you demand to know from her the source of the money she is using for the projects. Open communication is key to resolving this matter and ensuring trust in your marriage.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
MY girlfriend visited me a fortnight ago, and when it was time for her to leave, I ordered an Uber ride to take her home.
A distance that should have taken her about 30 minutes lasted for almost an hour and a half.
I detected this when I called the landline phone at home to check if she had arrived. Her sisters told me that she had gone to my place.
I got annoyed and went to the house to express my displeasure about it.
Just around the time, a guy pulled up at the house and called her by a nickname.
She was so confused that she did not know what to do. The guy left without uttering a word. Up till now, she has not explained what happened.
Greetings,
Is she playing a double game?
Robert, Kumasi.
Dear Robert,
I THINK you deserve an explanation, and the earlier you ask for one, the better. She must be hiding something from you, and there are two things that you can do.
First, you can confront her and demand an explanation. That might, however, lead to an impasse, because she might flare up and refuse to talk.
Secondly, you can just keep your cool and monitor her movements discreetly. If she is up to something, you’ll definitely find out.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
WHAT I’m going through currently isn’t what I anticipated when I agreed to marry my husband. I feel disrespected in my marriage and somehow manipulated.
From the beginning, he made things look easy. He made me feel like I was in a relationship with a man every woman could dream of. He was caring and simply wonderful, but along the line, I discovered that he was a gay.
When I confronted him, he told me it was something he used to do at the Senior High School but has turned a new leaf.
He made me believe that he had stopped, so I agreed to let go and let peace rein.
To my surprise, my husband brought these gays to our home, and when I confronted him, he told me he was finding it difficult to stop because he was addicted to it.
Obaa Yaa, I want to help my husband to stop this heinous act. How do I go about it?
Shika, Somanya.
Dear Shika,
I AM really sorry you are going through this. Finding out that your husband is a gay can be painful and overwhelming, especially in marriage.
Sexual orientation is not a habit or phase someone can switch off easily.
Have an honest and calm conversation with him; admonish him about the effect of sleeping with men.
Consider professional counselling and pray for him because some cases are spiritual.
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