Obaa Yaa
He likes French kissing in public
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I have been married for two years to a white man I met during a party at a friend’s house.
My husband and I have no problem. We get along so well and he adores me but I can’t stand the way he always wants to hold me and kiss me just everywhere.
At the market, in church, at home, oh my God! I am not used to this kind of thing.
Even if it were ordinary pecks I could contain them but he insists on a French kiss.
Obaa Yaa, I do not want to let him feel like I don’t love him by complaining about this habit but what else can I do to let him stop.
Obaa Yaa please advise me!
Cynthia,
Accra.
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Dear Cynthia,
YOU have to explain rather lovingly to your husband that your culture is quite different from his, and that what may be acceptable in Europe and America may be seen as taboo in Africa.
If he is a reasonable fellow, I think he would understand. Try to get him to understand you without giving him cause to feel you don’t love him.
When you have your privacy, show him all the love you can dispense, so that he’d be satisfied and convinced that you love him dearly, after all.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
