Obaa Yaa

I want to propose to him

Published

2 years ago

April 20, 2024

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I recently met this handsome and charming gentleman when I visited a particular church in Cape Coast. Throughout the service, my attention went on this guy who I perceived to be an active member of the church.

I had no idea why every movement he made caught my attention. And the fact that he was not wearing a ring suggested to me that he was single.

At the end of the service, the pastor asked all new visitors to stand up to be welcomed by the congregation so I joined the many others that had come for the first time.

And once again, this guy led the members that came to welcome us. The moment he said welcome to church my sister, his nice and composed voice sent shivers down my spine.

Fast forwarding, I have known this guy for some time now and we have become very close friends. I am hoping that he would one day express interest in me.

But when that day would come is what I don’t know now. As a single guy and very friendly, affable and attractive, I fear a daring girl feeling the same way about him could do the unthinkable of expressing her feelings for him.

I am thinking about asking his mind about me but I fear if it does not work, it could ruin our friendship. I need help please.

Micheline, Cape Coast

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Dear Micheline,

This is an interesting story and I must say that it is normal for a young lady like you to have feelings for a man you find attractive. Love is actually a beautiful thing but it is sad if you cannot express it.

The guy would not know you have feelings for him if you do not tell him about it. I always advise people to always be open and approach people when they feel something for them or have a problem with them.

If you have feelings for him, approach him and express it to him. Do not be shy. Feel free and say whatever is on your heart to him.

If he turns you down, do not feel bad or hate him for that; just take it easy and accept his decision in good faith.

I wish you all the best dear, stay blessed.

Obaa Yaa

I have no peace in my home

Published

7 days ago

April 18, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.

In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.

May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.

Worried housewife, Prampram.

Dear housewife,

Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.

I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.

But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.

Obaa Yaa

He doesn’t wear his wedding ring

Published

7 days ago

April 18, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.

For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.

But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.

Eno, Ashiaman.

Dear Eno,

Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.

The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.

When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?