Obaa Yaa

Should l abort or what?

Published

4 years ago

October 30, 2021

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a final-year student in one of the universities in the country but unfortunately I am pregnant. Though we love each other and have planned to abstain from sex to enable us to complete our studies and have a memorable marriage in the future, we could not resist the temptation and the unfortunate has happened.

My greatest challenge is that our parents are poor and will find it difficult to support me through the period of pregnancy and weaning my child.

Secondly, the pregnancy is likely to prevent me from completing my studies on schedule. What should l do to save the situation?

Ama-Cape Coast

Dear Ama,

At your level, you knew the consequences of sex before you indulged in it. However, thank God that in a tertiary institution you cannot be expelled from school, as it is the case at the junior level.

Though poverty has emerged as your greatest challenge, you can still manage the situation and complete your studies.

It will not be easy but you must gather the courage to maintain the pregnancy. This could be the only child in your life and the probability of this man getting married to another person because you have turned barren is great.

You have no idea what this child would be and this could be a test for you, therefore, brace up and take the challenge.

Greetings

Ms Victoria Alando of the 37 Military Hospital. September 26 was your birthday and irrespective of the challenges of this world, God has been gracious and blessed you with another year. May God be glorified in your life and may you receive grace upon grace and may your heart’s desire be granted. Belated happy birthday.

From: Priscilla Juanita Yogtiba, your daughter, family and friends.

Obaa Yaa

My journalist fiancé has no time for me

Published

6 days ago

February 28, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.

Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.

By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.

He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.

I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.

Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.

Paulina,
Dodowa.

Dear Paulina,

THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.

That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.

And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.

However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.

Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.

Obaa Yaa

My boss wants me to wear short skirt

Published

6 days ago

February 28, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.

My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.

My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.

He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.

Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.

Please advise me.

Emefa,
Sogakope.

Dear Emefa,

Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.

Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.

You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.

However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.