Obaa Yaa
We are friends with benefits
Dear Obaa Yaa
I have been dating my boyfriend for seven years. I later met a male friend a year ago and we are engaging in ‘friends with benefits.’
I have grown to love this guy more than my boyfriend. I always think about him, dream about him, call him and text him more than l text my boyfriend.
I even got pregnant for him, pinned it on my boyfriend and told him I wanted to abort the pregnancy because I knew that when l give birth, the baby will not look like my boyfriend and he might one day discover my secret deeds.
He gave me GH¢ 2,500.00 to abort the pregnancy.
I have realised that my friend is only interested in having sex but not ready for marriage.
I am eager and looking forward to a permanent relationship which will end up in marriage but he said no.
I feel betrayed and fooled but I still have him as a friend.
Pls what should I do?
Jessica- Accra.
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Dear Jessica,
You cannot eat your cake and have it. Since you do not love your boyfriend, there is no need to pretend as if you love him.
Break up the relationship with one and stick to the one who loves you more subsequently marry you.
You will embarrass yourself if you become pregnant for your friend again and try to conceal it.
You should know that it is easy to get someone to make love with you for the fun of it but you can hardly get a man who will genuinely love you and perhaps ready to marry you.
Make a wise decision now because life is full of challenges, surprises and f smart people who are opportunists.
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
