Relationship
Tips on how to be a better grandparent
Grand parenting comes with all sorts of benefits for both you and your grandchildren. Also grandparents, play many important roles in the lives of their grandchildren.
A survey of American families found that most grandparents fix meals and provide financial support to their grandchildren.
However, grand parenting can go far beyond these material contributions. From words of wisdom to play to emotional support, as a grandparent you have lots to offer the younger generations in your family.
It all starts with fostering a healthy relationship with your grandchildren, by dedicating time and effort to better connect with your family.
1. Be clear about what role you want to have in your grandchild’s life. Let them know how often you want to babysit, for example, or whether you’d like to be included in events such as school functions.
2. Talk with parents about their rules. Consistency is important for kids, so know the behaviour limits your grandchild has to follow at home and maintain those rules when they are with you.
3. Enforce any agreed upon punishment for bad behaviour, whether it’s a “time out” or loss of privileges, for example.
4. Babyproof your home to ensure safety for infants and toddlers. Since it’s probably been a number of years since you had young children in your home, check with your grandchild’s parents about ways to babyproof your home, so they’re comfortable leaving the child with you.
5. Carve out one-on-one time. On occasion, spend time with individual grandchildren. It will give you an opportunity to bond, without competition, with one grandchild at a time.
6. See the sights. Concerts and plays, movies, science centres and museums, parks, or walks in the neighborhood provide opportunities to be together and to exchange ideas and opinions.
7. Play games. Board and card games are a unique opportunity to watch kids in action and to see how they operate in the world. Games also allow you to help your grandchild learn to be a good sport and play fairly.
8. Communicate family history. Tell stories about games or trips you shared when the grandchild’s parents were young. This is a great way to weave a ‘tapestry’ of shared experiences for the whole family
Relationship
Balancing professional goals and relationship expectations
In today’s fast-paced world, juggling a demanding career and a fulfilling relationship has become a significant challenge for many individuals.
The strain of professional life can often encroach on personal relationships, leading to stress, conflict, and potentially even the breakdown of the relationship.
However, with careful planning, open communication, and mutual support, it is possible to navigate these challenges and cultivate a healthy work-life synergy.
The challenges of balancing
career and love
One of the primary challenges of managing a career and a relationship is the competing demands on time and energy.
A demanding profession can require long hours, frequent travel, and high levels of stress, leaving little time or energy for a romantic partnership. This can lead to feelings of neglect, resentment, and frustration in the partner who feels overlooked. Furthermore, differing priorities and expectations can also create tension in the relationship.
For instance, one partner may prioritise career advancement and financial stability, while the other may value family and relationships above all else.
Strategies for harmony
So, how can individuals cultivate a harmonious balance between their professional and personal lives?
Here are some strategies that can help:
1. Effective communication: Open and honest communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. By sharing career goals, expectations, and needs with your partner, you can prevent misunderstandings and ensure that both partners are on the same page.
2. Boundary-setting: Establishing clear boundaries between work and personal life is essential to maintaining a healthy balance. Prioritise quality time with your partner and learn to say “no” to demands that encroach on personal time.
3. Quality time: Spending quality time with your partner is vital to nurturing a strong and healthy relationship. Whether it is a romantic getaway, a quiet evening at home, or a fun activity, make time for your partner and prioritise your relationship.
4. Mutual support: Supporting each other’s goals and aspirations is critical to a successful partnership. Encourage and support your partner’s career ambitions, even if they differ from your own.
5. Seeking help: Finally, do not be afraid to seek help when needed. Whether it is couples therapy, career coaching, or simply talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeking support can provide valuable guidance and relief.
The rewards of synergy
When individuals successfully navigate the challenges of managing their career and relationship, they can experience numerous benefits, including:
1. Increased fulfillment: A healthy work-life balance can lead to increased satisfaction and fulfillment in both personal and professional life.
2. Deeper connection: Effective communication and mutual support can foster a deeper connection and stronger bond between partners.
3. Improved productivity: By prioritising time and energy, individuals can become more productive and efficient in both their personal and professional lives.
4. Resilience: A strong and supportive partnership can provide a sense of security and resilience, helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with greater ease.
In conclusion, cultivating a harmonious balance between career and relationship requires effort, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and grow together.
By prioritising effective communication, boundary-setting, and mutual support, couples can build a strong and resilient partnership that supports their personal and professional aspirations.
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).
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Relationship
Awakening of Umofia: Justice waits for no one
Greetings ! Greetings! Greetings my fellow Umofians! Eii! Eii! Eii! The silence has been long but not without purpose. Tell me, have you ever seen the leopard stalk its prey?
It does not pounce in haste. It watches. It listens. It lets the wind carry secrets before the final strike . And now? Ah ! I return not as a prodigal, but as the hawk that circled the land, patient, sharp-eyed, ready to tell what the land has shown me.
Eii! Eii! Eii! What a time to be alive in Umofia! The winds of change have not just whispered; they have howled, uprooting the complacent and shaking the mighty from their slumber. Ah, but what tales they carry! Tales of laughter, yes but also of lessons long overdue.
Tell me, my fellow Umofians, have you heard? Beneath the sacred baobab, where gossip dances like fireflies, there is now a chorus of sighs. The Akonta hunter who stalked the land as though he was invisible caught in his own snare! The great tree that stretched its branches wide, casting shadows over all. Ehe! Its roots now tremble, laid bare by the very earth it once claimed.
Ah! And what of the whispers that drift through the trees? The ones that speak of hands stretched across the seas, beckoning foreign plunderers to feast upon our forests and drink from our rivers as if it was theirs to take? Ehe! The people remember, and the land does not forgive.
Indeed, our elders say ‘when the tortoise parades in broad daylight, it forgets the hawk circles above’. And so, the one who dug his hands deep into the soil, pocketing gold as if it were pebbles, has been summoned to answer. EOCO’s halls do not echo with mercy only the weight of questions heavier than a sack of stolen wealth.
Ah, but the drama! They say ‘when the drummers grow too bold, even the chief forgets his dance.’ And what a spectacle it has been! The mighty, who once strutted through courtrooms as though they were palaces, now lie flat on their backs staring at hospital ceilings, wondering if the sickness in his chest came before or after the law’s tightening grip.
Let this be a warning, Umofia! The days of silent suffering are over. The sun rises for all, and no shadow no matter how deep can hide forever. Those who have woven webs of deceit will soon dangle from their own threads. The river remembers every disturbance in its current, and the people? Oh, the people remember even more.
Until next time,
Eyram, the tale bearer.
