Obaa Yaa

This boy deceives my friend

Published

5 years ago

January 23, 2021

Dear Obaa Yaa,

L have a close friend who is like a biological sister to me and with whom l share my dreams about life. She is in a three-year relationship with a boy of the same age, who to me is not dependable because he abuses her always.

Despite the behaviour of this young man, my friend trusts him and tries to paint a nice picture to others that their relationship is well and cannot be allowed to fall on rocks.

Quite recently, they fought and he attempted to strangle her to death, but he was unsuccessful, after which she called me at dawn.

The boy is not trustworthy because he keeps telling friends that he would not marry my friend, but comes around with sugar-coated words that he will do all within his power to marry her.

l must be frank that l cannot stand the double standard game he is playing with my friend.

While observers see the relationship as lacking credibility and, therefore, cannot last, she considers it as true love and has given her whole heart to him.

Can l impress upon her to end the relationship?

Belinda-Accra.

Dear Belinda,

You must be frank and tell your friend the truth about how you view their relationship.

Attempting to strangle her for no apparent reason should not be taken lightly. This gentleman can end her life if she fails to take serious view of current happenings in the relationship.

Judging from the utterances of the gentleman and what had transpired between them so far, it would be ideal if your friend ends the relationship in order to stay alive.

It is unfortunate she does not perceive what others see about their relationship.

Obaa Yaa

My journalist fiancé has no time for me

Published

5 days ago

February 28, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

MY fiancé is a journalist with one of the reputable media houses in Ghana.

Plans are far advanced for us to tie the knot but my worry is that he’s always busy and comes home late every evening when I am in bed.

By the nature of his work and schedule, as soon as he comes home, he takes his bath and supper. The next thing is to sleep without spending time with me.

He has no holiday. On Sundays, he goes again to work after church service. I am beginning to entertain some fears that things will get worse when we get married.

I am the type who like to be pampered but my fiancé is not pampering me.

Please advise me to make an informed decision before it becomes too late.

Paulina,
Dodowa.

Dear Paulina,

THERE are no specified working hours for journalists. In short, they are always on the move.

That is why it appears they cannot be good husbands.

And if you want a man who will be at home and pamper you, then a journalist might not suit that purpose, unless he is on leave.

However, I wouldn’t discourage you. Journalists are very interesting people who learn a lot and can help you to widen your outlook.

Don’t look at the romantic aspect of it only; consider the future of the relationship, your self-development and the future of your children. I wish you all the best.

Obaa Yaa

My boss wants me to wear short skirt

Published

5 days ago

February 28, 2026

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a Christian sister who believe in the biblical code of modest dressing as a mark of a true Christian.

My dress is always the long type, covering my knees.

My boss addressed me yesterday that such dressing was not needed in the company, particularly as a Personal Assistant.

He says my dresses should be office mini type to show my legs to attract a lot of customers since we are in the business of selling.

Obaa Yaa, I am confused about my boss’s demand as this will affect my Christian principle of decent and modest Christian dressing.

Please advise me.

Emefa,
Sogakope.

Dear Emefa,

Normally, Personal Assistants are generally expected to be smart in skirt and top of the same material or white top and blue- black skirt.

Unusually long dresses or skirts do not make Personal Assistant look smart, so employers will normally require that very long dresses are not worn by their PAs.

You could get skirts that are long enough to cover your knees so that your thighs are not exposed. You can look decent in that and do your job.

However, if your particular church does not allow the exposure of even your legs, then the only option is to resign and get another job where your kind of dressing will be tolerated.