Obaa Yaa
Can l love children as parents do?
Dear ObaaYaa,
I am a graduate from one of the tertiary institutions in the country. I have completed my National Service and secured employment in one of the prestigious companies in the country.
My major concern is that l marvel at how parents love their children and do all within their power to ensure that they have all the best of things they need.
Can l also love just as parents do and shower lots of gifts on their children. l am beginning to feel that l may not be able to live up to expectation as a father.
Joseph, Accra.
Dear Joseph,
When you observe people from a distance, it paints a different picture as regards how they act in a particular way and what really informs the decision they make.
There is a biological link among parents, children and relatives. Surprisingly, this unique bond keeps them together so long as they live.
The filial love between parents and children grows naturally. Imagine a mother who carries the child in the womb for nine months before she is delivered of her child.
The first task of a young girl who gives birth is to breastfeed the child. Having done this for a few days prepares the grounds for the commencement of love between parents and children.
Greetings
Ms Bridget AfiAzah. On the occasion of your birthday, we wish to seek for divine favours for you in all your endeavours. May God grant you long life and prosperity and cause you to grow from strength to strength. Belated happy birthday.
From: Your lovely husband, children and the entire family.
Mr Julius Kennedy Kyekye. God has been good to you in many ways and for this, we join all your loved ones to thank Him for the favours granted you. We pray that God will continue the good works he has commenced in you. Wishing you the best of luck. Belated happy birthday, dear.
From: Your lovely wife and children, relatives, friends and loved ones.
Mr Cletus Awumey. Your creator knows what is good for you and the appropriate time to respond to your demands. May He continue to bless, protect and guide you. Remember that His love will never depart from you because he loves you. Happy birthday.
From: Your family, friends and loved ones.
Obaa Yaa
I am sexually attracted to children
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young man residing in Tamale. I am 40 years old and I have got my own business which is going on successfully.
The nature of my job had made me richer and am able to afford anything that I want.
My only problem is that I need a partner but I don’t fall in love with matured women. I am attracted to children.
I have had an encounter with so many women who are ‘marriage materials and type’ but none of them touch my heart.
In my previous relationship, the girl I dated was 15 years. She took me as a big brother but to me she was my lover.
Now that she is 22 and I can marry her, I have lost interest in her.
Obaa Yaa, what do you think is actually wrong with me? Is it normal? How can I have a partner if I continue to feel this way?
Dabo, Tamale.
Dear Dabo,
I don’t even know how to start this conversation. It is not everything that your heart desires that you should go for.
You need to understand that your desire for children sexually is criminal under the laws of this land so it should not be entertained.
I suggest you seek the assistance of psychologist to advise you or else you might end up in jail.
You might be suffering from pedophilia which is a condition of being sexually attracted to children. You need psychiatric help.
I suggest you also speak to your pastors to help you in prayers, in case it might be spiritual.
Obaa Yaa
The banker deceived me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I fell in love with a banker who told me he wasn’t married and therefore, wanted to marry me.
We started going out and spending time together. He went to the extent of going to see my parents for the engagement list.
It was only after I got pregnant when he confessed he was already married and could not afford to marry me as a second wife.
The problem is that for the past five years, this man has refused to provide for the upkeep of the child.
He is not showing any commitments towards the child and making things difficult for me.
I am currently finding it difficult to take care of the child’s feeding and clothing.
My child is very brilliant at school and my fear is that I cannot give him the best of education since I am not working.
Prisca, Dodowa.
Dear Prisca,
Your story is a sad and unfortunate one. He just ‘toyed’ with you and was successful.
It’s about time women check about the men who propose to them.
And in the first place, why were you intimate with him, knowing very well that you were not married?
Report the matter to the Domestic Violence and Victims Support Unit (DOVVSU) of the Ghana Police Service, formerly known as Women and Juvenile Unit (WAJU) immediately.
They would summon him and question him about the upkeep of his child and employ legal means to make him accept responsibility for the child.
