Relationship
Show me your friends and I’ll show you your health span
Friends sharing their challenges
“Me nyare n’anso me nti ap)” this is a popular akan saying that can be translated into English as “I am not ill, yet I feel unwell.” It’s that feeling when you just can’t place a finger on what is not right with you.
Today, I can confidently inform you that if you have felt this way in the past, you certainly had a point. Medical science has come a long way and we know that health and wellness go far beyond what we are used to; pains, heart disease, infections etc. that form physical health/wellness.
Other equally important aspects of wellness exist, and these may be classified as social, mental, spiritual, financial and digital health and wellness.
Do not be surprised when your doctor begins to ask you questions about your social network such as those you have close ties with i.e., family or friends or both. Longevity depends on a large extend on one’s social support system or network.
This is how the American Heart Association puts it “lack of SOCIAL CONNECTION is associated with increased risk of premature death from all causes, especially among men.”
This is no open ticket to spend all of one’s after work hours hanging out with friends under the disguise that you are prolonging your life or reducing your risk of premature death. Moderation is key in all things and your strong social ties need not be a whole village, all you need is a handful of loyal friends or family who know you inside out and have your wellbeing at heart.
If you are stressed out or have any mental health challenges, you should be able to speak to a close friend and sharing your challenge may just be enough or this friend may be able to advice you appropriately.
It is easy to laugh with such friends and not be worried about being judged and laughter as you know is MEDICINE. Close contacts may prompt you to take your physical health seriously but even if they don’t, that bond you share, the sense of belonging causes the body to produce feel good hormones that protect you and prolong your health span.
I prefer health span to lifespan simply because lifespan refers to just being alive but one may not be “living” as you may be bedridden, in a coma, have multiple organ challenges etc. We should all aim at a long health span.
The art of building strong social connections is one reason we need to work on getting our children away from their phones and other gadgets that deprive them of the opportunity to talk to their peers, share physical contact and form lifelong relationships.
Dear friend, choose your friends wisely if you want to live a long, healthy and happy life.
While you work on your social connections, let’s breathe our way to great health by following the steps below and repeat these steps daily;
1. Sit in a quiet place.
2. Avoid tight clothing (so loosen your belt, neck tie or other constricting clothing).
3. Take in deep breaths through your nostril and exhale slowly through partially closed lips.
a. At the peak of your initial inhale, take in another breath and hold for a count of 4 before exhaling.
4. Expand your belly as you breathe in.
5. Focus on your breathing and forget about everything else.
6. When your focus drifts off (and it will about 50 per cent of the time), acknowledge the thought but quickly return to your breathing.
7. Continue breathing in and exhaling for 5 minutes.
8. Increase the duration of this breathing/mindfulness over time.
…and remember to teach your friends to breathe too, after all together you will live a long healthy and enjoyable life.
AS ALWAYS LAUGH OFTEN, ENSURE HYGIENE, WALK AND PRAY EVERYDAY AND REMEMBER IT’S A PRICELESS GIFT TO KNOW YOUR NUMBERS (blood sugar, blood pressure, blood cholesterol, BMI).
Dr Kojo Cobba Essel
Health Essentials Ltd (HE&W Group)
(dressel@healthessentialsgh. com)
*Dr Essel is a Medical Doctor with a keen interest in Lifestyle Medicine, He holds an MBA and is an ISSA Specialist in Exercise Therapy, Fitness Nutrition and Corrective Exercise. He is the author of the award-winning book, ‘Unravelling the Essentials of Health & Wealth.’
Thought for the week (1) – “Lack of sleep may predispose you to many diseases including a STROKE. Jump into bed an hour earlier and sleep a stroke away. You cannot be healthy during WAR or VIOLENCE, let’s all pray and work towards PEACE in our WORLD”
Thought for the week (2) – “There is no magic formula to being happy but making a conscious effort to be happy goes a long way.” – Dr Kojo Cobba Essel
By Dr Kojo Cobba Essel
Relationship
The power of shared hobbies: how common interests can strengthen relationships and marriages
In today’s fast-paced world, relationships and marriages can be put to the test. With the demands of work, family, and social obligations, it is easy to lose sight of what brought us together in the first place.
However, research has shown that shared hobbies and interests can play a significant role in strengthening relationships and marriages.
In this article, we will explore the benefits of shared hobbies and provide tips on how to incorporate them into your relationship.
Shared hobbies can include dancing, cooking, painting or drawing, travelling, gardening, hiking, learning to play a musical instrument, photography, writing, baking, swimming, language learning, attending concerts or special events, and volunteering.
Shared hobbies and interests can bring numerous benefits to a relationship. For one, they provide a common ground for couples to connect and bond over.
When both partners are passionate about the same activity, it creates a sense of unity and togetherness. Shared hobbies can also help to:
• Reduce stress and anxiety: Engaging in a shared hobby can be a great way to unwind and relax together.
• Improve communication: Working on a project or activity together can foster communication and teamwork.
• Increase intimacy: Sharing a hobby can create a sense of closeness and intimacy, bringing couples closer together.
Take, for example, a couple who shares a love of cooking. They might enjoy trying out new recipes together, experimenting with different flavors and ingredients. Not only does this provide a fun and creative outlet, but it also allows them to spend quality time together.
Another example is a couple who shares a passion for travelling. They might enjoy exploring new places and taking in the breathtaking views together. This shared activity can create a sense of adventure and excitement, bringing them closer together.
If you are looking to incorporate shared hobbies into your relationship, here are a few tips to get you started:
• Find common ground: Identify activities or hobbies that you both enjoy, or try something new together.
• Schedule time: Make time for your shared hobby, whether it is a weekly dinner date or a monthly music concert.
• Be supportive: Encourage and support each other’s passions and interests.
In conclusion, shared hobbies and interests can play a significant role in strengthening relationships and marriages. By finding common ground and engaging in activities together, couples can build a deeper connection and create lasting memories. Whether it is cooking, special concerts, photography, or painting, shared hobbies can bring numerous benefits to a relationship. So why not try something new today and see how it can bring you and your partner closer together?
As the saying goes, “A happy marriage is a union of two good forgivers.” By sharing hobbies and interests, couples can build a stronger, more resilient relationship that will last a lifetime. So take the first step today and discover the power of shared hobbies in strengthening your relationship.
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).
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COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE)
By Counselor Prince Offei
Relationship
Balancing professional goals and relationship expectations
In today’s fast-paced world, juggling a demanding career and a fulfilling relationship has become a significant challenge for many individuals.
The strain of professional life can often encroach on personal relationships, leading to stress, conflict, and potentially even the breakdown of the relationship.
However, with careful planning, open communication, and mutual support, it is possible to navigate these challenges and cultivate a healthy work-life synergy.
The challenges of balancing
career and love
One of the primary challenges of managing a career and a relationship is the competing demands on time and energy.
A demanding profession can require long hours, frequent travel, and high levels of stress, leaving little time or energy for a romantic partnership. This can lead to feelings of neglect, resentment, and frustration in the partner who feels overlooked. Furthermore, differing priorities and expectations can also create tension in the relationship.
For instance, one partner may prioritise career advancement and financial stability, while the other may value family and relationships above all else.
Strategies for harmony
So, how can individuals cultivate a harmonious balance between their professional and personal lives?
Here are some strategies that can help:
1. Effective communication: Open and honest communication is the foundation of any successful relationship. By sharing career goals, expectations, and needs with your partner, you can prevent misunderstandings and ensure that both partners are on the same page.
2. Boundary-setting: Establishing clear boundaries between work and personal life is essential to maintaining a healthy balance. Prioritise quality time with your partner and learn to say “no” to demands that encroach on personal time.
3. Quality time: Spending quality time with your partner is vital to nurturing a strong and healthy relationship. Whether it is a romantic getaway, a quiet evening at home, or a fun activity, make time for your partner and prioritise your relationship.
4. Mutual support: Supporting each other’s goals and aspirations is critical to a successful partnership. Encourage and support your partner’s career ambitions, even if they differ from your own.
5. Seeking help: Finally, do not be afraid to seek help when needed. Whether it is couples therapy, career coaching, or simply talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeking support can provide valuable guidance and relief.
The rewards of synergy
When individuals successfully navigate the challenges of managing their career and relationship, they can experience numerous benefits, including:
1. Increased fulfillment: A healthy work-life balance can lead to increased satisfaction and fulfillment in both personal and professional life.
2. Deeper connection: Effective communication and mutual support can foster a deeper connection and stronger bond between partners.
3. Improved productivity: By prioritising time and energy, individuals can become more productive and efficient in both their personal and professional lives.
4. Resilience: A strong and supportive partnership can provide a sense of security and resilience, helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with greater ease.
In conclusion, cultivating a harmonious balance between career and relationship requires effort, commitment, and a willingness to adapt and grow together.
By prioritising effective communication, boundary-setting, and mutual support, couples can build a strong and resilient partnership that supports their personal and professional aspirations.
To be continued …
Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).
ORDER BOOK NOW:
https://princeoffei22. wixsite.com/author https://counselorprinceass. wixsite.com/edu-counseling-psych https:// princeoffei22.wixsite.com/ website
COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE)
By Counselor Prince Offei
