Obaa Yaa
Should I take this initiative?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Life they say is full of uncertainties and one may not know where his or her help may come from that is the ultimate goal of why people befriend others. I hope Obaa Yaa helps me in terms of my decisions about relationship issues. I am currently a lost ball in the weeds and do not know what to do at the moment.
There is this girl I have befriended for months now and gradually I am head over heels for her but I do not know how to go about it nor do I want to upset my applecart. Should I go ahead and articulate my thoughts to her or we should be just friends because I am of the view that she may even end up befriending me should I let her know my thoughts, what should I do?
Yaw Baah, Koforidua, Eastern Region.
Dear Yaw
I am delighted that you reached out to Obaa Yaa with your problems. Honestly I understand how you feel, but my advice is that you are tactful in handling this issue. Every good love story has a unique start and while you do not want to stall your friendship with the lady by asking her out now, waiting too long to express your feelings to her too may be late. If you’ve built a good friendship and she seems ready for a quality relationship, express your love for her, for all you know she may be interested!
Good luck and if she accepts, kindly make her happy.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
