Obaa Yaa
My Uncle is proposing marriage to me
I am 20 years of age and my mother’s brother (my uncle) has been proposing marriage to me.
He always tries to touch either my breast or buttocks any time he gets close to me.
Although he already has two wives and is a womaniser, he says he is serious about me.
I am even scared with the way he going about things.
Should I report him to my mother?
Eyram, Volta
Dear Eyram,
THIS is a very serious and concerning situation. Marriage between an uncle and a niece is illegal in most countries due to genetic risk widely considered ethically and morally unacceptable.
Though this sort of relationship was acceptable to some ethnic groups in the past. It is now regarded by most people as incest and frowned upon.
Also very often, when children are born out of marriage of close relative, there is the tendency for them to suffer from intense cases of genetic disorder or diseases within the family.
I would also not advice that you encourage such a relationship since the man is a known womaniser.
He would break your heart and mess you up. Even mature women are unable to handle such trauma; how much more a mere 20 year old girl.
Firmly say no and avoid being alone with him. If you feel pressured or threatened seek help from someone you trust. (Parents, siblings, friends or authorities).
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
