Obaa Yaa
Let’s protect the girl child
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a mother whose children are all girls. I am having sleepless nights over cases of little girls being defiled lately.
I wished to give birth to boys because my parents gave birth to only girls.
I am getting worried with the way the girl child is taken advantage of by unscrupulous men and it appears these men are going unpunished.
What can I do to protect my children? We must begin to see actions geared at saving the girl child.
Araba,
Takoradi.
Dear Araba,
YOU must begin to have very frank talk with your little girls. Tell them about sex, and tell them it is wrong for little girls to engage in it.
Tell them that it is wrong for anyone, most especially strangers, to touch or fondle their private parts and should not hesitate to report such cases.
With the children who are too young to speak properly (below three years), make it a point to bath them yourself either in the morning or evening and observe their private parts to make sure are well.
Do not leave them in the company of boys or men for long periods without checking on them.
Obaa Yaa
My wife wants what I can’t afford
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My wife told me to buy her a brand new car as a birthday present. I have been saving towards this.
My intention was to get her a Nissan second hand car. Three days to her birthday, she told me she wanted a Range Rover because that is what her friends have been using.
I cannot afford this and even if I can do it, I may have to save additional money. She would not understand this.
She now calls me ‘irresponsible’ and all sort of names. I am so embarrassed by this behaviour.
Kwesi, Racecourse
Dear Kwesi,
Your wife isn’t treating you fairly if this is the story. If on the other hand she has a reason to believe you misuse your money, then she may have a point.
For me, your wife shouldn’t use what her friends are doing as a marker for you. After all you were willing to buy her a car of your choice but she rejected.
We are not in normal times so advise your wife to appreciate everything you do for her.
Advise her to stay away from those friends I believe may be influencing her.
Anyway, why don’t you sit down and talk amicably about this? If it’s Range Rover she wants, tell her she will get it but not now.
I think it makes sense for her to wait, unless she doesn’t want her preferred car.
Obaa Yaa
She’s too friendly with boys
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 and she is 22. We have been lovers for some time now and have agreed to get married if God permits.
We are so much in love to an extent that, we cannot go a day without calling each other or seeing each other.
My problem is that she is too friendly with boys. I have warned her several times but all have fallen on deaf ears. She told me not to think about that because they are her friends and she just entertains them for fun.
I love her and I’m afraid someone may take her out of my hands.
Is it nice for a girl (who already has a lover) to be so friendly with other boys? I am totally confused and don’t know what to do.
Barimah, Swedru.
Dear Barima,
YOU seem to have a problem with insecurity. You stated that she always shows how much she cares about you.
I believe you could complain if that is affecting the attention you crave for.
Is she just friendly or she is actually intimate and makes suggestive body contacts with these male friends?
If your answer is no, then I think you should relax and enjoy your relationship with this girl.
You can also let her know that you can’t stand it when you see her with the male friends and for that matter she should stop.
Trying to stifle her may rather kill the relationship.
