Obaa Yaa
My mother is against my family
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM a 30-year-old lady, married to a very humble, God fearing and hardworking man.
During our dating days, my husband was in the good books of my mother. In fact, he was her ‘sweet heart’. They could sit down and chat for long hours.
He was always showering her with money, gifts and goodies.
However, my husband lost his job a few months after marriage and I am the one assisting our home financially.
My mother’s attitude has changed because my husband doesn’t shower her with gifts any longer.
I personally told her we were struggling financially and we needed her support as well.
She came for a visit last week and started complaining bitterly about how old I have become because I am in a bad marriage.
I quickly threw her bags out and told her not to come to my house again.
Did I do the right thing by sacking her?
Oye, Kwabenya.
Dear Oye,
YOUR case is very dicey and since your mother is involved, I want to be very careful with my choice of words.
I understand what you are going through at the moment but kindly control your emotions when you are angry.
Throwing her out of the house was a big no and I urge you to apologize to her.
You can report her to your father to speak to her.
Try as much as possible to support your home with the little you have until your husband bounces back.
Continue to pray for him and encourage him to continue to apply for jobs.
I strongly believe with God all things are possible.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
