Obaa Yaa
My MoMo account is empty
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I always wish a happy new year to a couple of friends. This has become a tradition not because of the gains I get from them but rather these friends are very supportive and I always want to appreciate their gestures.
Interestingly, any time I call or send those wishes, they will ask whether my telephone number was still registered with Mobile Money (MoMo), which I always respond in the affirmative with smiles. Then after some few minutes, my message tones will beep with a MoMo alert.
I sent messages last year but the response was “Many Happy Returns.”
I am confused because up till now, they are yet to ask whether my contact is registered ‘MoMo-wise.’
I feel like asking why they have failed to perform that yearly ritual because something tells me all is not well with them. May be through that I will know whether they are facing financial challenges where I can be of help to them.
Should I proceed with my plan?
Max Quarmyne, Ablekuma
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Dear Quarmyne,
There could be various reasons for their inability to send you money this year. They could be facing some economic challenges or other unforeseen circumstances.
It is also possible that they have forgotten.
I would advise you to stop relying on your friends and having high expectations of them. Instead, place your trust in God. As the Bible says, “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength, and whose heart turns away from the Lord.”
Also, I would urge you to find something to do to support yourself financially in order to avoid feeling so disappointed in case they do not deliver as they did this year.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
