Obaa Yaa
My friend’s girlfriend is enticing me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been good friends from our childhood days, primary school through to the tertiary level and there has been no problem.
During one of our long vacations, my friend introduced me to his girlfriend and further explained to me that, they had planned to marry after they had secured permanent jobs.
I was happy about this union and secretly prayed that they should grow in love and be committed to each other. After some weeks, I discovered that this lady had developed a special affection for me and always praised me for the least thing I did.
Later she started making advances at me and tried on many occasions that I have an affair with her but promised that she would not tell my friend about it.
Despite her repeated insistence, I have not yielded to her demands and she has developed hatred for me and kept telling lies about me. What should I do now?
Thomas-Accra.
Dear Thomas,
You have shown by your character that you can come out victorious when subjected to a serious test.
Being loyal to your friend no matter the circumstances or conditions, means that you are a trusted, true and dedicated friend.
Since you have discovered the true character of the lady, you must keep it to yourself and be observant. You should not be the one responsible for their separation, else your friend will think you are envious of their relationship.
It will definitely get to a time when this girl’s true character will be exposed and your friend will make a decision whether to continue with her or not. This is the only way you can keep your long friendship intact.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
