Obaa Yaa
My friend’s girlfriend is enticing me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been good friends from our childhood days, primary school through to the tertiary level and there has been no problem.
During one of our long vacations, my friend introduced me to his girlfriend and further explained to me that, they had planned to marry after they had secured permanent jobs.
I was happy about this union and secretly prayed that they should grow in love and be committed to each other. After some weeks, I discovered that this lady had developed a special affection for me and always praised me for the least thing I did.
Later she started making advances at me and tried on many occasions that I have an affair with her but promised that she would not tell my friend about it.
Despite her repeated insistence, I have not yielded to her demands and she has developed hatred for me and kept telling lies about me. What should I do now?
Thomas-Accra.
Dear Thomas,
You have shown by your character that you can come out victorious when subjected to a serious test.
Being loyal to your friend no matter the circumstances or conditions, means that you are a trusted, true and dedicated friend.
Since you have discovered the true character of the lady, you must keep it to yourself and be observant. You should not be the one responsible for their separation, else your friend will think you are envious of their relationship.
It will definitely get to a time when this girl’s true character will be exposed and your friend will make a decision whether to continue with her or not. This is the only way you can keep your long friendship intact.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
