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Keeping the spark alive: tips for a fulfilling marriage —part 2

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• A simple hug can strengthen a couple’s bond.

MARRIAGE is a journey that requires effort, commitment, and creativity to keep the spark alive. In our previous article, we dis­cussed the importance of communica­tion, quality time, and appreciation in building a fulfilling marriage.

In this second part, we will explore four more crucial tips to help you take your relationship to the next level. From keeping the romance alive to letting go of resentment, I will share expert advice to help you build a fulfilling marriage.

4. Keep the romance alive:

Surprising your partner

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Romance is not just for the early stages of a relationship. Make an effort to surprise your partner, plan romantic getaways, and show affec­tion.

A simple kiss, hug, or touch can release oxytocin, the love hormone, and strengthen your bond. Some ideas for romantic gestures include:

• Planning a surprise weekend getaway

• Writing love notes or poetry

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• Creating a special playlist of your partner’s favourite songs

• Cooking their favourite meal

• Giving them a thoughtful gift or surprise.

5. Laugh together

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Laughter is a powerful tool in any relationship. Find the humour in life’s situations, and laugh together often. This can help you navigate challeng­es, reduce stress, and create lasting memories.

For example, you could watch a funny movie or TV show together, or share jokes with each other. You could even plan a fun outing to a comedy club or entertainment show.

6. Support each other’s dreams

A fulfilling marriage is built on mu­tual support and encouragement. Sup­port each other’s passions, dreams, and goals. Be each other’s biggest cheerleader, and celebrate each oth­er’s successes.

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If your partner has always want­ed to start their own business, for instance, you could offer to help them brainstorm ideas or create a business plan. You could also attend network­ing events or conferences together to show your support.

7. Take responsibility and forgive

No one is perfect, and mistakes will happen. Take responsibility for your actions, apologise when necessary, and forgive each other. Holding grudg­es can create resentment and damage your relationship.

If you have had a disagreement with your partner, try to approach the sit­uation with empathy and understand­ing. Listen to their perspective, and acknowledge their feelings. You might say something like, “I understand why you’re upset, and I’m sorry for my part in the disagreement. Can we work together to find a solution and move forward?”

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To be continued …

Source: Excerpts from “COURTSHIP MATTERS: Keys to a Fulfilling Lasting Marriage” Book by REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Lecturer, Published Author, and Marriage Counsellor).

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  …Tips to building positive relation in the workplace

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Interpersonal relationships are complex constructs that can make or break a work environment. It is essential to cultivate relationships that are more positive and productive in the workplace so that everyone feels comfortable, respected and appreciated.

 For improved job satisfaction and happiness at work, take time to strengthen your work relationships

Here are some tips for successful relationship-building at work.

2. Set and meet expectations

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Set expectations that are clearly defined and reasonably achievable. Be realistic with deadlines, and don’t overextend yourself or your team members. Ensure everyone is aware of the expectations and deadlines, so they can adequately prepare.

Discuss potential outcomes and consequences before starting any project or task. This way, everyone involved has a better understanding of what needs to be done and how it needs to be done. This will help prevent misunderstandings down the line.

Once expectations are set, work hard to meet those expectations to prove that you are a team player. When you meet deadlines, you demonstrate accountability and dependability. You show that you can be trusted.

3. Build trust

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Strong professional relationships are built on trust and respect. To gain trust, you need to be reliable and trustworthy. Show that you can be relied upon by following through on your commitments and keeping your promises.

Be honest and upfront with others, even if it’s uncomfortable. Transparency helps to foster trust. When people trust you, they’ll feel more comfortable being open and honest with you. This leads to better communication which will further strengthen your workplace relationships.

Trust is only possible when all parties involved feel respected and valued. Respect your colleagues’ ideas, opinions, and feelings by actively listening to them and giving them the attention they deserve.

4. Express gratitude

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Find small ways to express gratitude regularly. Even a simple “thank you,” or heartfelt compliment can make a big difference.

Showing appreciation for someone’s efforts or ideas shows that you value them and their work. When you express gratitude, you send the message that you care about them, which will encourage them to reciprocate and build a stronger relationship with you.

5. Take an interest

Take the time to get to know your colleagues. Get to know their personal interests, hobbies, and passions outside of work. Ask them about these things often and take a genuine interest in them. You will develop more meaningful relationships when you learn and listen to them talk about the things that are important to them.

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Showing an interest in your colleagues not only helps build relationships but it also encourages collaboration and creativity. People who feel heard and respected are more likely to open up and share their ideas.

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When desire overpower: A family guide to sexual addiction recovery 

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Easter is already in the air church plays, family trips to Kwahu, fish money count in Kumasi market stalls. But for some families, the season also sharpens a private pain: a teenager who hides his phone under the mattress, a wife who finds transfers to unknown numbers, a father who smells stale hotel soap on his son’s shirt. Sexual addiction does not announce itself. It steals trust slowly, then all at once.

I see it at CPAC intake rooms: mothers trembling not from anger but exhaustion, men blaming themselves for “raising him badly.” Here is what we know and what actually helps. 

Research frames compulsive sexual behaviour less as moral failure and more as an intimacy disorder tied to anxiety, untreated trauma, and a dysregulated reward system (Giordano et al., 2021).

In Ghanaian homes, shame thickens the silence. Carnes (2020) found that structured family disclosure guided by a therapist raised treatment entry by 38 per cent. Grubbs et al. (2020) showed spiritual support lowers relapse risk only when paired with accountability, not preaching. 

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Name the behaviour without drowning the person

At our Adenta Oyarifa-Teiman office, I often ask a couple to write down one line: “I felt scared when I saw __; I need __.” Not “you are dirty,” but “I saw pornography at 2 a.m. on your laptop; I need us to meet CPAC on Thursday.” I remember Kofi (name changed), a car dealer from Spintex, sitting across me saying, “If I call him addict he will run.” We drafted a text instead: “Yaw, I love you. I saw Mastercard bills. I’ve made us an appointment. I’ll drive you.” He came. 

Use Easter’s rhythm, not its sermons

The season’s power is ordinary belonging. Invite your son to peel yam for Good Friday soup; ask your husband to lead the family in a simple sunrise prayer at 6 a.m., phone left in the hall.

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A Shai Hills walk, a shared taxi to church-these re-anchor a nervous system.

 Invite, do not ambush. Then bind that belonging to a step: install accountability software that blocks explicit sites and sends a report to a trusted person, agree on weekly attendance at a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting, schedule therapy session with experts from Counselor Prince & Associates Consult – CPAC. Grubbs’ finding holds: faith helps when it carries accountability. 

Build containment the Ghanaian way

Few Accra families have study rooms; rural families share one chamber. Make rules fit: “No phones in bedrooms after 10 p.m. -all devices charge in the sitting room.” Keep a single MTN phone for night calls. Agree on cash, not mobile money, for daily spend. For betrayed spouses, CPAC names betrayal trauma without gossip; the relief is immediate.

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Parents need their own slice: a 20-minute walk, a radio prayer, a friend who listens. Empty cups spill. 

City reality versus village reality

In Accra, you may afford an expert from CPAC and monitoring software. In Bawku, you may lean on CPAC’s online service or a community nurse, a well-trained and trusted pastor or imam, and a strict routine.

Both depend on three moves: containment, treatment, connection. I have watched both work. 

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Sexual addiction thrives in secrecy. It withers in small, repeated honesty. One week clean, one meeting attended, one budget table opened-these are Easter’s quiet resurrection.

At CPAC we do not promise miracles; we promise a plan. Some sons make tea safely again. Some husbands show receipts. Shame shrinks when families speak early, set boundaries, and bind to help. 

Source: Field notes from Counselor Prince Offei’s practice in mental health, marriage counselling, and addiction support at CPAC.

References

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Carnes, P. J. (2020). Sexual addiction and compulsivity: Journal of Treatment & Prevention, 27(1), 1-12. 

Giordano, A. L., et al. (2021). Family communication in sexual addiction recovery. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 47(2), 312-327. 

Grubbs, J. B., et al. (2020). Spirituality, shame, and compulsive sexual behaviour. Archives of Sexual Behaviour, 49(5), 1665-1677. 

To be continued …

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Source: REV. COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI’s insights on sexual addiction, relationships, and mental health in Ghana. He is a leading mental health professional, lecturer, ADR Expert/Arbitrator, renowned author, and marriage counsellor at COUNSELOR PRINCE & ASSOCIATES CONSULT (CPAC COUNSELLOR TRAINING INSTITUTE)

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