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 There has been a canker that has been growing gradually and eating at our moral fibre as a coun­try and it has a name. It is called intolerance and if care is not taken, it will destroy this nation in the near fu­ture.

All across the city of Accra, and I tend to believe across the country, every­body seems to be in a rush to go somewhere, such that the usual Ghanaian attitude of demonstrating care for another person is gradually being lost.

When two people are approaching each other in a narrow alley, the usual or normal attitude is for the younger person to wait for the older person to pass be­fore the younger person then moves.

The situation is changing and younger people are not observing this accepted nor­mal practice in the Ghanaian society. Just go through the Okaishie area and use the narrow alleys connecting the various buildings housing the shops in the area and you would easily confirm this behaviour.

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In traffic, the situation is even worse. Having given an indication that you want to turn either right or left onto the next lane due to a broken down vehicle blocking your way, especially on three lane roads, the driver of the vehicle coming from behind will not slow down for you to join his or her lane.

The few seconds that one driver can give to another so one can pass and the other would also move, usually results in collisions. Most of the collisions on the high­ways are as a result of such incidents.

On the highways, this dis­play of intolerance graduates into madness, where some drivers decide to overtake more than one vehicle on a hill, when they cannot see ahead of them. If an oncom­ing vehicle happens to be speeding from the opposite direction, the obvious result will be a direct collision with its attendant loss of innocent lives.

Any observer of the de­bates on radio and TV would have noticed this phenom­enon of intolerance running through every facet of our society. Panelist refuse to observe the ethics of dis­course and interrupt other contributors in a manner that is so frustrating.

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Instead of noting points of disagreement and offering a rebuttal when it is their turn to speak, they just keep on butting in to disrupt the train of thought of the one speak­ing. I was told of an incident at a studio of a radio station where a panelist was so incensed with the constant interjections by a co-panelist so much that he slapped him.

It is an unacceptable behaviour but if you put yourself in his shoes, you would not judge him harshly. On a number of occasions, I felt compelled, if it were possible to have entered the studios through the TV set to repeat what the gentleman did to his co-panelist.

In our social circles, this intolerance translates into unhealthy competition that has the potential of ruining people’s lives. The get-rich-quick mentality that is permeating our society must be urgently and seriously addressed.

This brings to mind the sad story, a few years ago of an incident at Kasoa, a suburb of Accra where two teenagers murdered their 10-year-old friend with the intention of using parts of his body for rituals to get money.

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Everybody is in a rush to get ahead of his neighbour, friend, brother or sister re­gardless of the method used as if the world is coming to an end in the next couple of months. I do not know whether it is due to the difficult economic conditions prevailing in the country, everybody seems to be in a bad mood.

Any little disagreement turns into a quarrel of some sort. Parents snap at their children at the least provo­cation.

The religious leaders, opinion leaders, civil society etc. have a duty to preach tolerance to help address this behavioural menace afflicting our nation.

May God help us!

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By Laud Kissi-Mensah

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Beyond the ribbon: Unveiling the complex realities of breast cancer (Final part)

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Public awareness campaigns have successfully cast breast cancer into the global spotlight, typically framed through a uniform lens of pink ribbons, early detection drives and triumphant stories of survival. While these initiatives have driven vital mammography compliance and research funding, they often perpetuate a sanitised narrative. Beneath the polished public messaging lie complex, less-discussed clinical realities and emotional burdens that patients, families and healthcare providers must navigate long after the initial medical milestones have passed.

Moving towards an honest discourse

Acknowledging these untold truths does not diminish the incredible advancements achieved in modern oncology; rather, it humanises the patient experience. Expanding our cultural understanding beyond the simplistic “warrior” trope allows for deeper institutional support, better long-term medical management and genuine empathy for the lifelong journey of survivorship.

When people see breast cancer in movies or awareness campaigns, they usually see a neat story: someone gets diagnosed, goes through treatment, rings a celebration bell and goes right back to normal.

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In real life, the journey is much more complicated. Let us break down five “hidden truths” about breast cancer using everyday examples.

Truth 1: The “Post-Treatment Cliff” (Life after treatment)

What it means: Everyone thinks that once medical treatments, such as surgery or chemotherapy, are over, the patient instantly returns to their old self. In reality, that is when a whole new set of challenges begins.

The example: Imagine finishing a gruelling uphill marathon. You cross the finish line, but your legs are still shaking, you are exhausted, and everyone else goes home while you are left trying to recover. Many survivors deal with long-term side effects, such as constant tiredness, numbness in their fingers or swelling, called lymphoedema, for years.

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Truth 2: Catching it early is great, but not a magic shield

What it means: Early detection saves lives, but some types of cancer are so aggressive that even a small tumour can behave like a runaway train.

The example: Think of weeds in a garden. If you spot a weed early, you can usually pull it right out. But certain aggressive “weeds” spread seeds everywhere or grow roots so fast that even finding them early does not stop them from trying to pop up somewhere else later.

Truth 3: The long, hard marathon of daily pills

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What it means: For many survivors whose cancer is hormone-receptor-positive, treatment does not stop when surgery ends. They may have to take hormone-blocking pills every day for five to ten years.

The example: These daily pills act like security guards keeping the enemy away, but they can also bring troublesome side effects, such as joint stiffness, sudden hot flashes or weakened bones. Because of this, taking the medication can feel like a daily chore that reminds patients of the cancer for a decade.

Truth 4: People we forget about (Men and young adults)

What it means: Public campaigns often focus on older women. Because of this, other groups affected by breast cancer may be caught off guard.

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The example: Men can develop breast cancer, too, because they are born with a small amount of breast tissue. However, because some men think it is a “women’s disease”, they may ignore an unusual lump in their chest for months, resulting in a later diagnosis. Young adults under 40 face a different shock, having to worry about fertility, having children and career interruptions right in the middle of building their lives.

Truth 5: The hidden price tag (Financial stress)

What it means: A medical diagnosis brings a heavy second burden: financial strain.

The example: Even with good health insurance, additional costs can pile up quickly, including specialised scans, genetic testing, expensive prescription drugs and taking weeks or months off work to recover. It can feel like dealing with two crises at the same time: trying to heal the body while worrying about bills.

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Talking about these harder truths does not mean we should not celebrate survivors. It simply means we need to understand the real, full picture of what people go through.

By Robert Ekow Grimmond-Thompson

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To Damascus and back

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As soon as a married man becomes infected with the he-goat mentality, he is bound to forget that he has a wife.

It is often a tragedy because he can completely lose focus and generally start misbehaving. He considers his wife a headache, at best a pain in the neck.

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The man has got a new girlfriend and is excited. And when he sees his wife, he wonders what she is doing in his home. Maybe she is only a stray dog in need of shelter. And Jesus Christ, won’t she just keep out of the way?

The married man who has gone into extramarital affairs is half the time engaged in mindless fantasy. He is engrossed in devising many ways to please his newfound lover. And if the girl is explosive in bed, the fantasy could spiral into the fourth dimension.

It could be that his wife is basically an “old layer” who can no longer take him to the heavens and back. The girlfriend, however, can take him on a trip into space, meandering through the galaxy of stars, down the Milky Way. It can be an experience of a lifetime.

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Normally, after such a trip, the married man will forget that he even has a home and children. He becomes a fugitive.

What he needs is deliverance. So his wife will go to the pastor and tell him that her husband has developed very strange symptoms.

First, the man is behaving practically like a he-goat, sniffing desperately after young women. Secondly, he cannot find his way back home.

The pastor is likely to diagnose the ailment on the spot. He does not need to conduct a blood test to offer a prognosis. “It is the spirit of lust,” the man of God will say. “The Lord is in control.”

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Sometimes prayers are effective, and the man heads back home. For very curious reasons, he remembers that he had lost his way. So he returns to his family, wondering what might have been happening to him. So long!

Other times, prayer worsens the case. It is not that the prayers are not being answered. God has only given the lecherous bloke a long rope on his own balls. It is as if the prayers drive him further and further away from the world of reason. For as long as three years, his soul is restless. It is in bondage!

The man forgets that the young girl he has been riding will one day marry and leave him in the cold. That day will surely come.

Now, when a married man is jilted by his girlfriend, he remembers that he has a wife. He had almost forgotten that he went and wedded a woman and called her his wife.

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The jilted man will lick his wounds and trace his way back home. His wife would wonder whether he had lost his way. Anyhow, she will welcome him back home.

He becomes the loving husband he once was, and his wife is amazed. What might have happened to her man? Was he struck on the way to Damascus? Or on his way back?

When the man is sober, he will decide to calculate how much he has spent on that useless girl who said she was going to get married to some equally useless cockroach.

He realises that, in the short span of sexual enjoyment and extramarital bliss, he has lost all his lifetime savings, enough to build two-storey buildings.

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Last Saturday, some youths who distinguished themselves in various endeavours were awarded at an excellence awards ceremony.

The males should always have it at the back of their minds that chasing women is what brings down both the weak and the strong, the poor and the rich, the lettered and the unlettered.

This article was first published on Saturday, August 26, 2006.

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