Obaa Yaa
In love with mother of three
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I Am a student in a tertiary institution and in love with a woman who has three children. This woman and my parents were co-tenants and her husband used to send me on errands which I gladly carried out.
Her husband, a God-fearing man who was generous, never stopped showering gifts on me, and this made me develop a special love for him. One day, as I went to their house to deliver a parcel the man had asked me to collect for him, I met only the wife who told me her husband had travelled to attend an emergency meeting.
She accused me of neglecting her over the period not concerned about her welfare. According to her, running errands for her husband alone was not enough and that I should have occasionally asked if there was something I should do for her.
The woman led me to one of the rooms in the house where they had gathered washed clothes which were not arranged. Having shown me the room, she asked me if I could spare a little of my time to assist her in arranging the clothes.
This lady used the opportunity while we were in the room to find out if I had a girlfriend. When I said no, she asked what I was waiting for and why I should deprive pretty girls of my age from being loved and shown affection.
She, therefore, moved to where I was and began to fondle me and warned me not to voice out to anyone. She deliberately fondled me for a while and what followed could not be described.
Having introduced me to an amorous life and with the promise that all would be well, I find it difficult to stop moving with this woman.
What should I do?
Kwame- Koforidua.
Dear Kwame,
You should not depend on the leniency of this gentleman to spoil his marriage. Nobody in the right frame of mind will be happy with what you are doing. This man could easily kill you if he discovers that you are sleeping with his wife. A word to a wise is enough.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
