Obaa Yaa
I’m fed up with this relationship
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 22 years old and deeply in love with my boyfriend who is 25 years old. Secondly, my brother suspected that my lover had moved with many ladies but l did not believe this initially.
Though he is a very loving and caring person with whom l would like to spend the rest of my life with, there were moments l had entertained fears my future plans with this gentleman could fizzle out due to his behaviour.
A few months ago, some friends of mine saw him travelling out of Accra with a different lady. Though he had informed me that he would travel, he fell short to disclose to me details about the trip.
Upon investigations, l discovered that he had travelled with the lady. Though he had denied when l first confronted him on the issue, he later agreed and apologised to me, and l have forgiven him.
After a year, he was seen in an obscure area with another girl and he is back apologising. Should l accept his apology for the second time?
Nancy, Accra.
Dear Nancy,
The repeated actions of your boyfriend shows the sort of person he is and the troubles he will give you as a husband in the future.
His clandestine moves are questionable and should he continue with this kind of behaviour and coming back to apologise, then your heart will probably be troubled if you marry him.
The reason that you are fed up with the relationship should guide you in making up your mind that this marriage will definitely not end well.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
