Obaa Yaa

I’m afraid my mum will reject her

Published

2 years ago

January 20, 2024

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a young man of 35 years of age. I met a woman who is also in her 30s three years ago at a friend’s wedding. We have been dating since then.

She is a very intelligent lady, humble, hardworking and every man’s dream girl.

I proposed to her and I must say the lady loves me so much.

I want to take the relationship to a different level. However, my mother does not support my decision because she dislikes her tribe.

The only barrier is that she comes from a tribe which my mother advised me against. Due to that, I have not been bold enough to mention her tribe to my mother.

I really wish to introduce her formally to my parents but I am scared of what my mother will say. How do I go about it? I need your advice.

Israel, Accra

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Dear Israel,

Having someone who makes you happy is a good thing.

From your own words, your girlfriend is loving and caring and possesses all these admirable qualities. I think you should count yourself lucky and blessed to have gotten a woman in this present day with such pleasant qualities.

And it is obvious that you really love her; so I will advise that you tell your parents the truth about her tribe.

Her tribe should not be a hindrance at all if she is a good woman.

She will definitely win the heart of your mother if she is a good woman as you portray her to be.

Moreover, you can talk to your mother about how good she is and explain to her why you need her as your future wife.

Obaa Yaa

I am Torn Between Two Guys

Published

6 days ago

October 11, 2025

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.

I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.

Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.

Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.

—Esinam, Legon

Dear Esinam,

When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.

Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?

You might also reflect on:

Emotional stability — Who offers long-term security and respect?
Compatibility — Who truly understands you and shares your vision?
Consistency — Who has shown genuine care over time?
Future plans — Who fits into the life you want to build?

Attraction and good vibes are important, but so are character, compatibility, and long-term intentions.

Take your time, listen to your inner peace, and choose the one who fits not just your heart today, but your future tomorrow.

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Obaa Yaa

My grades are dropping

Published

6 days ago

October 11, 2025

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 22-year-old lady at the University of Ghana, Legon. I realised my Grade Point Average (GPA) was very good and could even get a First Class if I put in more effort.

It is rather unfortunate that in Level 300, I have noticed a significant drop in my academic performance, which has left me both confused and worried about my future.

The increased workload and expectations at this level have been overwhelming, making it challenging to balance demanding courses with extracurricular activities and personal responsibilities.

This pressure has fuelled my anxiety, making it even harder to maintain my grades. The coursework is substantially more demanding, and I often find myself struggling to keep pace.

This sudden shift has been disheartening, and I can’t help but worry about the long-term impact it may have on my future.

Chelsea, Accra.

Dear Chelsea,

Although you have realised a significant drop in your grades, it does not mean that you should throw in the towel. See it as a signal to change your approach to studies.

Identify the subjects or topics you are struggling with and put in more effort. Create a study timetable to manage your time well, making sure you revise regularly instead of waiting until exams.

Don’t hesitate to ask teachers for clarification or join a study group with friends who understand the subject better.

Also, cut down distractions such as too much time on the phone or the use of social media when studying.

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