Obaa Yaa
I made a wrong choice
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I started dating a young man in my neighbourhood. Interestingly, I became pregnant for him, without knowing him better.
The moment I got pregnant, I told him to go and see my family and pay the bride price.
He did the needful and I was so happy that he made me proud.
It has been hell for me after the marriage ceremony. He has become very authoritative and abuses me verbally.
Anytime there is a disagreement between the two of us, he would embarrass me whether people were around or not and later apologise.
I have moved out from my matrimonial home but my parents are telling me to go back because he is still my wedded husband.
What should I do?
Baaba, Sunyani
Dear Baaba,
My advice is that you consider reuniting with your husband. Engage him in a one-on-one conversation, accompanied by prayers asking for divine intervention to change him into the partner you desire.
Additionally, seeking guidance from reputable counsellors who will provide valuable insights to solving this problem.
By combining open communication, prayers, and professional advice, you may discover the best approach to address the challenges in your marriage and find a path that brings fulfillment and understanding for both of you.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 35year –old-lady married to a banker. I am a housewife. I am fair in complexion. I got my left hand tattooed sometime last year. I have never had my peace with my husband because he strongly abhors.
In my attempt to get it erased, I have caused a big scar on my hand which has worsened the situation. Sometime ago, your esteemed paper carried a story about how permanent tattoo can be cleared and a location.
May I know whether it is possible to get the scar and tattoo erased, and how much it would cost.
Worried housewife, Prampram.
Dear housewife,
Since I have no idea how wide and deep the scar and tattoo are, it would be difficult for me to have a meaningful discussion with the specialists at the unit.
I suggest that the next time you visit Accra, you pay a visit to any skincare unit and ask what help they can offer.
But until then, do not apply any self-medication. You may also ask your doctor to advise you as if there is any way out for a surgery. All the best.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
Ever since we got married, two years ago, my husband seldom wears his wedding ring except on occasion such as church service, funerals, outdooring and other social gatherings.
For the rest of the week, he goes to work without it. The excuse he gives is that whether he wears the ring to work or not, he is by law married to me.
But I beg to differ. I suspect there is more to it than what he told me. I need your advice on this.
Eno, Ashiaman.
Dear Eno,
Some men don’t like wearing rings; others enjoy it. It is just like how some women like wearing jewellery or large earing while others would rather do away with them.
The fact, however, is that a man can misbehave even when he wears it or not because there are ladies who wouldn’t mind with the ring on.
When he gets back home, he would wear it again. What difference does it make if he doesn’t wear it all?
