Obaa Yaa
I am disappointed in this lady
Dear obaa yaa,
I met this lady in my hometown when I visited my grandparents for the Christmas holidays.
Though I stayed in the village for a few days, my stay there was a memorable one because of the type of friends I made and the precious times we spent together.
I was attracted by how beautiful a particular lady looked and her character. I did not hesitate to conclude that this lady will be a good person to marry.
An elderly man with whom I had a discussion about my desire to marry this lady at all cost, advised me to concentrate on my studies since I was still in school.
Unfortunately, I did not listen but spent my precious time thinking about the lady at the expense of my studies.
While still thinking about marrying this lady after school, I had the greatest shock of my life when I was informed that this lady has a boyfriend who is known in the community.
Since I was briefed about the behaviour of this lady, I became very sad, confused and do not know what to do.
What step should I take?
George-Tema
Dear George,
Issues pertaining to love must be handled with care and one has to be diplomatic.
You should have made some background checks on this lady while you were in the village.
It is unfortunate that you have failed to listen to the elderly man and which should have guided your steps.
Having known that she is someone’s girlfriend,you should back out of the relationship, keep yourself safe and be focused.
I am in my final year in the university. My elder sister has been very supportive after the death of our parents.
My sister has a boyfriend who visits often. Anytime he comes around, she wonders why I don’t entertain him and why I suddenly find an excuse to leave the room. She takes it as me being cold, even jealous, and it angers her more than I can even imagine.
She has no idea about what is going on behind her back. He has asked me out on several occasions and looks at me in a lustful manner.
But my problem is that I never told my sister the real reason I avoid her boyfriend. I have kept my distance, not out of hate for her or for him, but because I carry a secret that would break her heart.
Princess, Tema.
Dear Princess,
Why are you keeping this away from your sister? As long as you continue to live under the same roof with your sister, tell her about her boyfriend’s behaviour.
Have you by any chance confided in any relative? I’ll advise you to open up to someone, at least to take the weight off your shoulder.
Act fast before the situation exacerbates.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young lady of 23 years who lives in a compound house around Kasoa in the Central Region. I live with my auntie.
We are not always at home because she spends most of the time at the market due to her business, and I am mostly on campus.
One sunny afternoon, I overheard some tenants talking about another who takes her bath in a basin and throws the water away. We have two big bathrooms, but just because she doesn’t want to scrub, she has refused to bathe there.
Although she is usually not around due to her work as a nurse, it doesn’t warrant her to do as she pleases. We have spoken to the landlord about it, but she seems unconcerned. What should I do?
Beatrice, Accra
Dear Beatrice,
I am surprised that your landlord seems unperturbed.
Have you considered having a conversation with the tenant to find out why she ignores the chores? She does not seem bothered about the kind of perception the other tenants have about her.
Why would a young lady who is a nurse and an advocate for healthy living be this lazy and unconcerned about her surroundings?
No excuse should be tolerated just because she’s a nurse and mostly not around.
