Obaa Yaa
He keeps threatening me
Dear Obaa Yaa
My best friend’s boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, and any time I try to end it, he threatens to tell my friend.
They have been dating for five years and planning to get married next year but he does not want to let me go.
I have stopped sending messages or calling him in an attempt to end our relationship, but he never goes a day without doing so. He will either keep calling or come to my shop to look for me if I do not pick up.
And when I refuse to be intimate with him, then his threats start. He sometimes tells me that I will definitely be his second wife and that scares me to death.
I really want to tell my friend but I am afraid that might cost us our lovely friendship and even our business together.
Please what should I do?
Akua, Amasaman.
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Dear Akua,
First and foremost, you are responsible for the results of your actions. Why did you date him even though you knew he was your friend’s boyfriend?
This gentleman is a womaniser; someone who has no remorse and by his character he cannot work for a successful marriage.
Additionally, he will never be content with his wife. He is capable of breaking marriages and friendships.
Despite his continuous threats to expose your amorous relationship with him to your friend, you must take the bull by the horn and sever links with him, because he will tarnish your reputation and destroy your future.
You must take this bold decission in order to save your friendship with your friend and secure your business.
Obaa Yaa
I don’t like his dressing
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I live with my parents and my sister. She has a boyfriend who frequently comes to the house. I don’t have a problem with that but I’m concerned about the way he carries himself around the house anytime he visits.
He sometimes wears only a singlet and pair of shorts to our place. He doesn’t dress formally.
At times, he even removes his top and walks bare chested. He doesn’t feel shy at all exposing himself this way to his prospective in-laws.
Any visitor to our house seeing this guy around bare chested may form a bad opinion about us.
And to add salt to injury, my sister is not helping matters. In order to avoid any hostility, we have talked to my sister to find a way to talk to him but it is not working. How can we handle this?
Alodia, Accra.
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Dear Alodia,
IN my opinion, it is not out of place to tell your prospective in-law that the way he behaves around your home is not particularly to anybody’s liking.
You do not have to say this angrily, and in doing so, you must choose your words carefully.
On the other hand, your sister might also like this, but that is not the point.
The point is that you want a decent in-law and you might as well send signals about what your expectations are as far as your in-law is concerned.
Obaa Yaa
My mum sleeps with other men
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I lived with my mother and her actions bring a lot of embarrassment to my family, and I need your advice.
She is single and in my neighborhood, my mother is noted for sleeping around with men. What is more disgraceful is that she even sleeps with men younger than her in the neighbourhood.
Her attitude is really affecting me because I have always tried to be morally upright.
Could you imagine an occasion when I overheard some people mentioning the number of men my mother has slept with?
I have now become an object of mockery as I am the only child of my mother.
I am now confused, I feel like running away from home and never return. I will do this without informing her of where I intend going. I am 18 years and she is 38 years. Please help me out.
T.K, Bantama.
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Dear T.K
There is no point of running from the house without your mother knowing.
That would not solve the problem. This is the time that she needs you most because she may be frustrated.
Remember, she is your mother and you need to accord her that due respect.
Have a personal talk with her about what she is making you go through mentally and physically.
I believe that even if she needs a partner, she can go in for a responsible person. That can lead to marriage so that she’ll stop sleeping around.
You can also report her behaviour to your family head to talk to her.
