Obaa Yaa
He keeps threatening me
Dear Obaa Yaa
My best friend’s boyfriend and I have been dating for two years, and any time I try to end it, he threatens to tell my friend.
They have been dating for five years and planning to get married next year but he does not want to let me go.
I have stopped sending messages or calling him in an attempt to end our relationship, but he never goes a day without doing so. He will either keep calling or come to my shop to look for me if I do not pick up.
And when I refuse to be intimate with him, then his threats start. He sometimes tells me that I will definitely be his second wife and that scares me to death.
I really want to tell my friend but I am afraid that might cost us our lovely friendship and even our business together.
Please what should I do?
Akua, Amasaman.
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Dear Akua,
First and foremost, you are responsible for the results of your actions. Why did you date him even though you knew he was your friend’s boyfriend?
This gentleman is a womaniser; someone who has no remorse and by his character he cannot work for a successful marriage.
Additionally, he will never be content with his wife. He is capable of breaking marriages and friendships.
Despite his continuous threats to expose your amorous relationship with him to your friend, you must take the bull by the horn and sever links with him, because he will tarnish your reputation and destroy your future.
You must take this bold decission in order to save your friendship with your friend and secure your business.
Obaa Yaa
I want a sponsor
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 25 years of age. I am a degree holder and wants to further my education with my Masters.
But unfortunately, I lost my father and I don’t have any one to help me financially to do my masters.
I am seeking for sponsors to help me but I do not know any such sponsor. I am, therefore, appealing to you through this letter for assistance.
Paddy, Ada.
Dear Paddy,
It is quite impossible finding such ‘sponsorships’ at random unless you have family members who want to assist.
Try as much as possible to search for a job because we are in hard times and I wonder what type of sponsorship you are looking for.
You can save after you have been paid. After working for a while, you can take a loan to further your education and arrange for suitable class.
You can start a lucrative business online just as other ladies are selling clothes, shoes, bags etc to earn a living.
Even if someone will assist you, you need to make efforts yourself.
Obaa Yaa
My boss is the problem
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in love with a young man in my office. He is a very kind and gentle man every woman will dream of.
He is 35 and I am 25 years of age. I am currently pursing my Masters at the Accra Technical University in Fashion Design and Textiles.
As a matter of fact, he assists me in my project works, assignment and always ready to help me in times of difficulty.
Interestingly, he has also shown interest in me and we are planning to get married next year.
My problem is that anytime my boss sees him around me, he gets angry and gives him attitude and shouts at him to go to his office.
My fiancée wants to resign because it is making him uncomfortable in the office and this is affecting his attitude towards work.
He is accusing me of having a relationship with the boss. I am disturbed, what should I do?
Baaba,
Takoradi.
Dear Baaba,
It is natural in such a case for your fiancé to suspect your boss might be after you.
Your boss’s attitude to your fiancé is too harsh. He should take it easy with him, especially when he is assisting you with work.
I have a feeling that your boss has an interest in you so seeing your fiancé around you makes him uncomfortable.
However, you can also have a talk with your boss to find out the reason for his behaviour towards your guy.
