Obaa Yaa
He keeps harassing me
I am a 26-year-old girl in a tertiary institution with the optimism to excel in my academic programme.
Unfortunately, a married man who is a friend to a cousin of mine has been harassing me every day. Though this man is married with three children, he has been showering expensive gifts on me in a bid to entice me to go out with him.
Though he had offered to sponsor me to read a professional course, l was not interested and l had made myself clear to him, yet he would not listen to me.I have the conviction that accepting such offers could lead to unacceptable demands from him.
Since this man is married, l am confused and would not like to fall in love with a married man to ruin my future eventually.
Kindly help me out of this problem before l commit myself.
Linda, Takoradi.
Dear Linda,
The inference that you would not like to fall in love with a married man speaks volumes and you must stick to that.
Your decision not to accept gifts from this man because of the consequences is equally good and l wished all young girls would be fast to read through the evil plans of some men.
The possibility of using your cousin to achieve his aim is also great, for that matter, you must be careful not to fall a victim to his scheming.
Can you imagine the embarrassment you will give yourself if this man’s wife gets to know about a romance between you and her husband?
Since your desire is to do all within your power to excel academically, you must endeavour to study hard and refrain from impediments which are likely to come your way.
I wish you well.
Obaa Yaa
I am sexually attracted to children
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a young man residing in Tamale. I am 40 years old and I have got my own business which is going on successfully.
The nature of my job had made me richer and am able to afford anything that I want.
My only problem is that I need a partner but I don’t fall in love with matured women. I am attracted to children.
I have had an encounter with so many women who are ‘marriage materials and type’ but none of them touch my heart.
In my previous relationship, the girl I dated was 15 years. She took me as a big brother but to me she was my lover.
Now that she is 22 and I can marry her, I have lost interest in her.
Obaa Yaa, what do you think is actually wrong with me? Is it normal? How can I have a partner if I continue to feel this way?
Dabo, Tamale.
Dear Dabo,
I don’t even know how to start this conversation. It is not everything that your heart desires that you should go for.
You need to understand that your desire for children sexually is criminal under the laws of this land so it should not be entertained.
I suggest you seek the assistance of psychologist to advise you or else you might end up in jail.
You might be suffering from pedophilia which is a condition of being sexually attracted to children. You need psychiatric help.
I suggest you also speak to your pastors to help you in prayers, in case it might be spiritual.
Obaa Yaa
The banker deceived me
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I fell in love with a banker who told me he wasn’t married and therefore, wanted to marry me.
We started going out and spending time together. He went to the extent of going to see my parents for the engagement list.
It was only after I got pregnant when he confessed he was already married and could not afford to marry me as a second wife.
The problem is that for the past five years, this man has refused to provide for the upkeep of the child.
He is not showing any commitments towards the child and making things difficult for me.
I am currently finding it difficult to take care of the child’s feeding and clothing.
My child is very brilliant at school and my fear is that I cannot give him the best of education since I am not working.
Prisca, Dodowa.
Dear Prisca,
Your story is a sad and unfortunate one. He just ‘toyed’ with you and was successful.
It’s about time women check about the men who propose to them.
And in the first place, why were you intimate with him, knowing very well that you were not married?
Report the matter to the Domestic Violence and Victims Support Unit (DOVVSU) of the Ghana Police Service, formerly known as Women and Juvenile Unit (WAJU) immediately.
They would summon him and question him about the upkeep of his child and employ legal means to make him accept responsibility for the child.
