Obaa Yaa

He has a ‘bushy’ armpit

Published

1 year ago

April 20, 2024

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a young lady of 25 years and my boyfriend is 30 years. We have been dating for three years now and I must confess I am certain I have met my dream partner.

We have always been happy together since we met and this has made our friends very envious of our relationship.

However, there is this one particular thing about him that is putting me off and making me have a rethink about our relationship.

The issue is that he has a very ‘bushy’ armpit which is embarrassing to me.

I have spoken to him about it several times but each time I complain, he will tell me that it makes him feel comfortable and sexy.

Obaa Yaa, I really love this guy and do not wish to leave him but I don’t like the unkempt armpit either.

What do you suggest I do?

Diana,

Somanya.

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Dear Diana,

I would suggest you have a little patience with him. I believe that if you continue complaining about it, he will eventually come to the realisation that you do not like his over-hairy-armpit and gradually clear it if he really loves you.

However, you need to be careful about how you go about it in order not to sound disrespectful. You must talk to him in a calm and respectful manner; that way he’ll listen to you and trim it.

Also, you could promise to get him a reward if he gets it shaved.

I believe this would help save your relationship.

Obaa Yaa

I am Torn Between Two Guys

Published

6 days ago

October 11, 2025

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am torn between two guys and finding it very difficult to make a choice.

I have known the first guy for three years. We respect each other a lot. We started as just friends, but we recently began dating. Even though we don’t have much in common, he makes me feel loved and special.

Interestingly, I met the second guy only two weeks ago through a mutual friend. From the beginning, it has been nothing but good vibes between us. I enjoy his company, and we share many things in common. He is basically my type of man, both physically and mentally.

Now I feel like I have to choose, but I am lost and unsure who to go for.

—Esinam, Legon

Dear Esinam,

When it comes to love, everyone must take time to think carefully. You’re not just choosing a partner—you are choosing a potential husband and the father of your children, regardless of your current feelings.

Consider your priorities. Which of the two aligns better with your values, goals, and aspirations?

You might also reflect on:

Emotional stability — Who offers long-term security and respect?
Compatibility — Who truly understands you and shares your vision?
Consistency — Who has shown genuine care over time?
Future plans — Who fits into the life you want to build?

Attraction and good vibes are important, but so are character, compatibility, and long-term intentions.

Take your time, listen to your inner peace, and choose the one who fits not just your heart today, but your future tomorrow.

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Obaa Yaa

My grades are dropping

Published

6 days ago

October 11, 2025

WeeklySpectator

Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a 22-year-old lady at the University of Ghana, Legon. I realised my Grade Point Average (GPA) was very good and could even get a First Class if I put in more effort.

It is rather unfortunate that in Level 300, I have noticed a significant drop in my academic performance, which has left me both confused and worried about my future.

The increased workload and expectations at this level have been overwhelming, making it challenging to balance demanding courses with extracurricular activities and personal responsibilities.

This pressure has fuelled my anxiety, making it even harder to maintain my grades. The coursework is substantially more demanding, and I often find myself struggling to keep pace.

This sudden shift has been disheartening, and I can’t help but worry about the long-term impact it may have on my future.

Chelsea, Accra.

Dear Chelsea,

Although you have realised a significant drop in your grades, it does not mean that you should throw in the towel. See it as a signal to change your approach to studies.

Identify the subjects or topics you are struggling with and put in more effort. Create a study timetable to manage your time well, making sure you revise regularly instead of waiting until exams.

Don’t hesitate to ask teachers for clarification or join a study group with friends who understand the subject better.

Also, cut down distractions such as too much time on the phone or the use of social media when studying.

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