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Don’t use sex as bargaining tools
Local preacher , Minister John Amponsah
Some African wives in the diaspora, mostly Ghanaians, have resorted to using sex as a bargaining tool in their marriages.
This act is said to be causing a lot of havoc in marriages, compelling the husbands to seek sexual satisfaction outside.
This came to light at a programme organised by the Men’s and Women’s Ministries of the New Covenant United Methodist Church (NCUMC) in Fairfield Ohio, in the United States of America.
It was organised under the theme, ‘Filling each other’s tank,’ and aimed at exploring ways to attend to the needs of spouses and families in order to build a happy Christian home.
It addressed areas including intimacy, finances, emotional and psychological needs, raising kids in the diaspora and extended families.
According to a statement issued by the NCUMC and copied The Spectator, the practice was ‘unholy and archaic’ way of using sex as a bargaining tool in their marriages.
It expressed worry about the lukewarm attitude of African wives, especially those in the diaspora, when it came to matters of sex and romance, unlike other wives who are always ‘battle ready.’
According to the statement, the situation has been so bad to the extent that some husbands sometimes, would have to appease their wives in order to get ‘what’s legitimately theirs.
However, members of the Women’s Ministry, the statement mentioned, shared myriad of reasons that affects their drive to explore sexually, ranging from stress from work and household chores.
Some of them blamed it on African cultural beliefs, that “when an African woman explores, she was tagged as a spoilt girl so it forces them to be laid-back or give them what was traditionally accepted or expected of them.”
The statement quoted a member of the Women’s Ministry, Mrs Florence Esi Jonfiah, who could not fathom why most wives behaved as if sex was a man’s benefit when as a matter of fact, its benefit was unquantifiable.
“Look, let’s not pretend, we equally need sex just like our men need it. For us, apart from the many health benefits including stress release, increased hormone production, vaginal health, improved circulation among others, the ecstatic moments alone is unimaginable,” she stated.
From Kingsley E. Hope, Kumasi
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BISHOP Dr Richard Owusu Akyeaw, the Founder and General Overseer of Living Grace Ministries, has condemned the growing acts of indiscipline and lawlessness in second cycle institutions.
He called for a collective approach to reverse the trend, saying that discipline triggered academic excellence in achieving life successes.
Bishop Dr Akyeaw made the call when speaking at a durbar of parents, teachers, and students to climax the 15th anniversary celebration of the Standard School of Royals in Sunyani and praised the school authorities for the level of discipline among the students and pupils.
He noted that instilling a sense of discipline would improve academic performance of students and thereby advance academic growth and development in schools.
Bishop Dr Akyeaw said that:
“Excellence isn’t an event, but a habit formed through consistency and self-discipline,”
saying that any disciplined environment fostered confidence, creativity, and love for nation.
He commended the teachers of the school for the dedication in moulding the students and pupils responsibly and urged the school children to remain focused, obedient, and studious.
Mrs Vivian Adu Bonsu, the Proprietress of the School, expressed appreciation to God, management, teachers, and parents for the school’s academic successes.
She said despite some emerging challenges, the school remained committed to achieving its vision of churning out quality and well-behaved and morally upright graduates. –GNA
THE chiefs and people of Ntotroso in the Asutifi North District of the Ahafo Region on Saturday celebrated their Apomasu Yam Festival at Ntotroso amidst pomp and pageantry.
The colourful festival, which featured a week-long activities including traditional cultural rites, was held under the Theme: ‘Mining and Tradition: Building Resilient Communities through Sustainable and Responsible Mining.’
It attracted a lot of guests including chiefs, politicians, businessmen and women, foreigners, school children and members of the public amidst drumming and dancing.
The Apomasu Yam Festival, celebrated biennially, honours the Apomasu deity believed to safeguard the community’s wellbeing.
The festival also served as a fundraiser to support ongoing educational infrastructure projects initiated by the Ntotroso Traditional Council.
Addressing the people, Barima Twereku Ampem III, Paramount chief of Ntotroso, said the Apomasu festival was not merely a celebration of harvest, but signifies a spiritual homecoming as well as a moment of thanksgiving to the Almighty God and to the ancestors for protecting the land, blessing the farms, and sustaining them.
The festival, he noted, symbolises renewal of unity, purpose and collective responsibility to protect the land entrusted to us.
Touching on the menace of illegal mining activities, Barima Twereku Ampem, who is also the president of the Ahafo Regional House of Chiefs, pledged the support of the chiefs and people in the area to complement government’s efforts at finding a lasting solution to the problem.
According to him, illegal mining remains a threat not only to our environment but to national security and long-term development of the country.
He, however, urged the government to ensure strict enforcement of the law, in a fair, consistent and transparent manner so as to deal with the menace.
The Minister for Local Government, Chieftaincy and Religious Affairs, Ahmed Ibrahim, who led the government delegation, commended the chiefs and people of Ntotroso for organising a successful festival.
He praised their commitment to be accountable and transparent in their dealings with the people.
“Most leaders finds it difficult to be accountable to their people. What you have shown here is a demonstration of your commitment to honesty and integrity—a virtue that must be emulated by who aspire to lead,” he stated.
He later donated a cash of Gh₵100,000 to support the celebration.
After more than 300 years of existence, Ntotroso has seen a lot of changes both the social and economic fronts.
From a largely subsistence local economy, Ntotroso and other surrounding communities have now been placed on the global map of gold producing areas following the acquisition of mining concession in 2003 by Newmont Ahafo Mines.
From Daniel Dzirasah, Ntotroso
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