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Don’t deny husbands sex …it amounts to domestic violence — Gender Activist
Married women who intentionally deny their husbands sex as a form of punishment commit offence that amounts to domestic violence, the Upper West Regional Director of Department of Gender, Mrs Charity Banye has said.
“If you are capable of indulging in sexual relations with your husband as a married woman and you constantly refuse him because you are angry with him instead of using dialogue, then you are abusing him and infringing on his rights”, she stressed.
Mrs Banye who was speaking at a stakeholders’ meeting on ending sexual and gender-based violence (SGBV) at Wa defined abuse as “any act that causes physical or psychological pain to another person.”
“Some women resort to wearing tight-fitting jeans to bed because they have issues with their husbands so that the husbands would not have access to their bodies, yet when the men refuse them housekeeping money (chop money) the next day, they call for the heavens to come down”, she said.
The director stated that instead of denying each other sex as a way of resolving conflicts, spouses should rather use effective inter-personal communication to get their domestic issues resolved.
She further stated that heaping insults on men was a serious form of abuse that could hunt them for several days and increase their inferiority complex such that they would begin to withdraw from their wives in order to find solace in other women (side chics).
“Some women have weapons of mass destruction up here [pointing to her lips] and can rain insults on their husbands at the least opportunity, even in public”, she stated, and pointed out that even when the husbands sought to apologise for things they did not do right, some of the women responded to their efforts with insults.
Mrs Banye stated that such habits from women often drove the men away from home whereas others who were very quick tempered also resorted to physical abuse which she described as unfortunate and condemned vehemently.
She encouraged wives to be modest in their speech and the men to relax their egos in dealing with each other such that abuses would be minimised in marital homes.
She said that some men were also infamous for economic abuse such that they failed to establish businesses for their wives, whereas others refused to also provide financially for the house.
“There was this case where a man stopped his wife from working because he did not want other men to make advances at her. I was curious to meet the ‘miss world’ he was keeping at home and when I finally did, she told me how she wanted to work but was prevented from doing so”, she cited, and called on couples to make their homes lively for themselves and their children.
On his part, the Regional Commander of the Domestic Violence and Victims Support Unit (DOVVSU) of the Regional Police Command, Assistant Superintendent of Police (ASP) Adongo Apiiya called on men to empower their wives economically by making them aware of their salaries.
He said if men informed their wives about their earnings, they would be able to make sound budgets at home in accordance with the man’s total income and not make unreasonable demands.
“When you get home, give your pay-slips to your wives, inform them when there is an increment and involve them in planning the expenditure process so that they will give you peace of mind”, he added.
From Lydia Darlington
Fordjour, Wa
The Member of Parliament for Nsawam Adoagyiri, Frank Annoh Dompreh, has expressed concern over delays in the release of the District Assemblies Common Fund, warning that the situation is stalling development across the country.
On his facebook page, he described as a matter of urgent national importance, the Minority Chief Whip pointed to what he sees as a growing crisis of unpaid contractors, abandoned projects, and halted infrastructure works in many districts.
He noted that several communities are grappling with half completed schools, unfinished health facilities, abandoned markets, deteriorating roads, and stalled sanitation projects.
According to him, many contractors who have executed projects for district assemblies have not been paid, forcing some construction firms to demobilise from sites while workers lose their jobs.
He stressed that the District Assemblies Common Fund is not a discretionary allocation but a constitutional requirement under Article 252 of the 1992 Constitution, intended to support development at the local level.
In his view, years of delayed releases and accumulated arrears have weakened district development financing and disrupted projects meant to improve living conditions in communities.
He further argued that some payments made in recent years were largely the settlement of old debts rather than funding for new or ongoing projects, a situation he believes has affected contractor confidence and local economic activity.
He described the issue as more than a budgetary challenge, characterising it as a development emergency and a governance concern.
He therefore urged the appropriate authorities to pay outstanding DACF arrears, settle contractors who have completed their work, and ensure that transfers to districts are automatic and predictable.
He maintained that decentralisation can only succeed when district assemblies receive adequate and timely funding to carry out development projects.
He emphasised that stalled projects directly affect ordinary citizens, since they rely on such infrastructure for education, healthcare, transportation, sanitation, and economic activities.
He called for renewed attention to grassroots development, insisting that national progress should not be concentrated only in major cities but extended to all communities.
By: Jacob Aggrey
Richard Appiah, the footballer who killed two children and stored part of their bodies in a fridge at Abesim in the Bono Region in 2021 has been handed a lifetime sentence.
This was after a five member panel of judges at the Accra High Court returned a verdict of guilty against the convict.
Appiah, 32, also a draughtsman would spend the rest of his life in prison after he was convicted of murder.
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BY MALIK SULLEMANA
