Obaa Yaa
Are her concerns valid?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
A friend opened up to me recently that her husband gave her GH¢1,000.00 for her upkeep and that of her three daughters every month. Apart from this amount, she said, she did not receive any other support from her husband.
According to her, “the funds are not enough and it does not sustain her and the children throughout the month”. And that her husband did not seem to understand any time she asked for more money to cater for the basic needs at home.
I have asked her to be patient and manage the ‘little’ funds available to her. Are her concerns valid or she is being unappreciative of her husband’s effort?
Mavis Obuobisa,
Kwashieman.
Dear Mavis,
An amount of GH¢1,000 every month is quite appreciable. There are ladies who receive less than this amount every month yet they are able to survive and take care of their entire family.
Please ask your friend to stop complaining about what she is being offered. If she really wants more money for herself, then she might as well start a petty business so she can make some extra income in addition to what her husband offers.
Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am 20 and she is 19. We have been lovers for the past four months and have promised to get married to each other.
We love each other badly that one cannot leave the other for long. Our relatives know about our affair except her grandmother who will be in the country soon.
My problem is that, I doubt if the grandmother will be excited about this relationship. Her grandmother is very strict and I doubt if this relationship can be successful.
Her grandmother has been like a mother and everything to her, so her final decision may count.
We have promised each other to stay holy and clean.
Lartey,
Sunyani
Dear Lartey,
I don’t think your fears are justified if the girl’s parent do not object to your relationship with her.
What makes you think her grandmother will oppose the relationship if her parents endorse it?
Be positive about the relationship. There is no cause for alarm.
I am very happy you guys are staying holy and clean until marriage.
Both of you are student and need to be careful about any decision you take.
I believe you should try as much as possible to support each other and stay away from any negative act.
I have a girlfriend who is ‘allergic’ to me and ‘allergic’ to men in general.
Because of this, I barely touch her. I do not sit too close to her. I do not even hold her hands for long.
We have tried before. Even recently, we tried again. At first, things looked normal.
Then suddenly she lifted her hands and started scratching her back aggressively. We stopped immediately. Moments later, she ran to the bathroom and started vomiting.
She spent almost four hours there, weak, nauseous, and drained.
Watching someone you love suffer while you cannot do anything about it is painful. Is it a curse or an allergy?
Hello Christian,
What you’re describing sounds frightening and emotionally exhausting for both of you. But it is important not to jump to the idea of a curse.
Severe reactions after touch, closeness, stress, or intimacy can sometimes be linked to medical conditions, allergies, anxiety responses, trauma, or psychosomatic reactions.
The safest and most loving step is encouraging her to see qualified doctors, especially an allergist and mental health professional, so the cause can be properly understood.
Your patience already shows deep care. Do not blame yourself or search for supernatural explanations first.
Focus on support, medical guidance, emotional safety, and honest communication while protecting both her health and your relationship.
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